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Personal sex ?????

32 replies

minxi · 06/04/2005 10:35

Very personal sex ??? but need advice. Blow Jobs, I feel very bad but I don't give them to my DH - well used to, very rarely, can't even remember the last time must be at least 2 years ago. He never asks me to do it, he used to make jokes about it which I just changed the subject. Am I wrong - should I broach the subject, is he satisfied...HELP!!

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TracyK · 06/04/2005 10:45

I don't anymore and certainly don't intend to ever start again!
But then I'm ancient and can't be arsed to have even normal sex. far better/important things to think of now - like 'what to feed ds', 'how to keep ds entertained' etc.
dh is now 2nd in the pecking order!

Fio2 · 06/04/2005 10:50

look if you are both happy it doesnt matter what anyone else is doing

HappyDaddy · 06/04/2005 10:52

If he doesn't ask then you should consider yourself very lucky.

trinityrocks · 06/04/2005 11:07

I have more of a problem about wanting to and not being sure if I'm doing it right. Try to ask hubby and he says it's great but I've never finished him off like that IYKWIM, sorry if TMI!!
I would love to have the confidence to go all the way but I don't know how long it should take and start getting paranoid that I'm not doing it right , sorry

HappyDaddy · 06/04/2005 11:08

It varies from time to time and person to person. If he says it's great then believe him, he'd soon let you know if it wasn't.

TracyK · 06/04/2005 11:09

I read somewhere that you should be doing it like you would drink a Macdonalds milk shake!! IME of milkshakes - Macds is the thickest and you have to suck really hard!!
Is this right then Happydaddy??

HappyDaddy · 06/04/2005 11:12

No it bloody isn't. That will be very uncomfortable. No blowing either!

I bet I get into trouble now, even thought I'm just trying to be helpful.

Sponge · 06/04/2005 11:14

It's that old joke Trinity - what's the worst blow job you've ever had? - fantastic.
I'm sure you're doing it fine. It can take a while even if he's thoroughly enjoying it.

TracyK · 06/04/2005 11:14

Blooming magazines!!
Just as well I don't practice what I read!

Listmaker · 06/04/2005 11:15

Yeah but you can't suck like on a MacD's milkshake for all that long without getting lock jaw or something!!! I use my hand to help me out and it can take a while but my dp LOVES it and I find it very exciting too! But it's just as good used as foreplay only I guess. If my dp was never going to perform oral sex on me again I'd be most disappointed I must admit so only seems fair to continue to return the favour.

I'm sure you are doing it just fine. Act like you REALLY love doing it and enjoy them loving it!!

HappyDaddy · 06/04/2005 11:17

The main thing is for you to enjoy it. If you enjoy it, he definately will.

BadgerBadger · 06/04/2005 11:18

That is one of the eleven things that never pass my lips......... that and toes . Yuck!

If it's something you don't want to do, then don't! If your DH hasn't made an issue of it, don't worry about it. Nothing is more damaging than one parnter doing something they're uncomfortable with IME whereas, with a little self control, it's easy to forsake the odd thing for the sake of a good relationship.

HappyDaddy · 06/04/2005 11:19

Hear, hear badger.

BadgerBadger · 06/04/2005 11:29

HD....

What? You don't do toes either?

HappyDaddy · 06/04/2005 11:35

LOL actually NO I don't.

BadgerBadger · 06/04/2005 11:36
Grin
HappyDaddy · 06/04/2005 11:38

But that's not what this thread is about so i won't go on!

Original poster
minxi · 06/04/2005 11:58

Thanks all, guess if conversation came up then will have to face it (no pun intended)...Do have fairly healthy happy relationship in all other senses so should be happy..

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HappyDaddy · 06/04/2005 12:03

I really wouldn't worry about it minxi.

slappawappa · 08/04/2005 22:25

The best technique with blow jobs is to make out that you are really loving it! Make noises like mmm oooh... and then think of the shoes you will buy...

btw - best excuse not to give one... darling I would but you are too big for me...

Shazzler · 08/04/2005 22:33

Shazzy's husband here.

You can't possibly do it wrong.
Unless of course your teeth touch each other...

I GUARANTEE he will love whatever you do.
The longer you can do it the better. Keep some mouthwash near - menthol will feel good for him, and take your mind off the taste....

Could do with one myself....

kama · 08/04/2005 22:43

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pinkroses · 08/04/2005 23:07

I used to give them before my kids arrived, now it doesn't seem right.

My dh is different than yours because he wants them back. I would say if your dh asks for it, then he misses them, otherwise don't worry.

nameychangy · 08/04/2005 23:10

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dabihp · 08/04/2005 23:16

Don't want to kill this thread... But on the life b4 birth programme last nite, they said, sperm have their own SENSE of smell, which they use to guide them to the egg...

Surely you shouldnt swallow anything that possesses the sense of smell!! lol.....