Worried about DH

[Washersaurus]

He is so scary sometimes...

DS2 has D&V again,so DH just went off on one stomping about, moaning how he is always ill - when I told him we just had to deal with it as no use complaining, he started punching himself in the head whilst he was holding DS2

He says he doesnt want to speak to me and that it is all me and that 'he knows what my game is'(he always says this)

tis weird and i'm not sure what to do

sorry about typos have sick baby on lap

[NorbertDentressangle]

washeraurus -you are not over-reacting and its not your fault.

Could you make some of the phone calls suggested here when hes at work during the day? It would be a start. If you have some advice and info you could decide what to do next.

I know we've only met the once ( at a MN meet-up, I was Betty then) but I'm only about 8 miles down the road from you so if theres anything I can do please do let me know (I'll just check I've got the right boxes ticked to receive CATs)

Are you coming to the next meet-up?

[cheerfulvicky]

His behaviour reminds me a bit of a friend of mine, when he was extremely depressed and suicidal. Only you can tell whether he is being controlling and manipulative or whether he just has some serious mental health issues. However I would add my voice to those who say that such behaviour isn't normal. Sorry I can't be much more help - I hope you are okay.

[blinks]

any joy today with advice?

[NewAmazingBeginning]

It isn't your fault.

You are not over reacting.

Your mum probably changed the subject as didn't know what to say.

You can use NHS direct on line and answer questions that way. You still get a reponse -
treat at home
see Gp
call 999

[Washersaurus]

I haven't spoken to DH about it yet . He let me sleep in as I was up all night with DS2. He brought me a cup of tea in bed and got the boys dressed this morning - and not a word has been mentioned about what happened last night; he is carrying on completely as normal.

I have looked at the nhs direct site and still couldn't really say if it is depression/stress etc, or if it is just him being controlling (which he seems to be more and more as time goes on).

I promise that I will try to discuss it with him, although that may not be until we have worked out what on earth is wrong with DS2, with his fortnightly reoccuring bouts of D&V. I'm too tired for arguments at the moment!

Thank you all so much for taking the time to reply to my op.

[DragonLowFatSpread]

ok, glad you're ok.
why not take DS2 off to the GP and take the time to ask the GP about DH's behaviour while you're there?
keep in touch.
I don't mumsnet much during the week, but i'll keep any eye on this thread for your news.
much mumsnetty love
DB

[blinks]

the nhs direct website isn't going to give you specific advice. you really need to call them and speak directly. it is completely confidential and you can remain anonymous if you prefer.

better to tackle DH after you know more about what you're dealing with.

hope DS feeling better.