Does it annoy you when dp goes to pub?

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We have 5 dc and I am 20 weeks pg ,he sometimes goes and has a drink on the way home and I try not to get annoyed but it really pees me off ,especially when it is the awful time betwen tea time and bedtime when all the dc play up .

I just sometimes wonder what he would do if I just took myself off to the pub and left him alone with 5 tired dc ,a meal to prepare and sack of spuds tied to his waist .

Oh ignore me I am an emotional whingebag .

Oh poor you!!

If DP did it often, yes, i would get very peed off! If it wasn't very often, it wouldn't stress me.

It wouldn't stress me at all with my one dc. However, with 5, I would be pretty mad if he did it on a regular basis.

maybe you should go out at teatime/bath time so he can do it alone

and he can see what you do

tbh dh going to pub isnt a bad thing, but guess depends how often he does it, ie every day?

I don't care when DH goes to the pub, but then, it's not often, I have one tame child and I'm not pregnant.

how often does he do it? And how much notice do you get/

If he did it most evenings then yes
If it was now and again then no

It's not on if he does it all the time but never allows you to go out ie never takes care of the DC for a few hours so you can have time off.
If he does it once a week and also does at least one night a week of childcare so you can go out then that's fair enough.

It used to really annoy me when DH used to stop off at the pub on his way home from work at waht for me was the worst time of day with the DS's ( teatime / bedtime).
His argument being ' If I go early I get back early '
It became a huge issue for me and nearly resulted in divorce - seriously.
Now if he goes to the pub it is after DS's aare in bed.

I have to nag DH to go to the pub!

Although I know how you feel with that time of day - it's awful isn't it? DH was home early on Friday and he asked me why DS3 was so whingey - I had to point out that he is always like that when I'm trying to cook tea...