Do men orgasm every time they have sex?

[Rabbittingon]

My first partner did. As did I. I thought that was normal.

Yet, with other people, I often don't (but that's ok) and sometimes they don't. One of them was impotent so getting it up was a big deal and I am not surprised that he didn't ejaculate but my new partner doesn't always either. And he is very good in bed. Is it that I am rubbish? Or is it normal for a man not to ejaculate?

Am very embarrassed to ask this.

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I am glad for the confirmation that I am not odd. Thank you.

I would have an STI test if I knew that the sex were going to be regular and that the other person was honest and upfront about their sex life and history. While I wouldn't want to pry into their past (or current sex life) I would want to be satisfied that I am content that I remain safe. I would rather avoid the STI tests. One is rather uncomfortable and the test has a reminder that lasts about a week. I don't know if it's the same for women. (after the uncomfortable test, I didn't have sex for about 3 days, I am sure that some people can, I am not one)

Round 2 of sex is hard work. A person should be well rested before starting things like that. It's very rare that I am well rested.

If someone said to me to use a condom or they get dressed, better they get dressed. Fortunately I am not into one night stands.

If I didn't cum at the end of sex, I would feel dissatisfied. I would hope that the woman shared the mutual pleasure, if not an orgasm, then enough pleasure to feel that the time was well used.

N1- i think you are grossly irresponsible. Your reasons for not wanting an STI test are mad- having a sore willy for 3 days it pathetic-compared to possibly contracting HIV or giving a woman chalmydia that could render her infertile. One night stands are the classic way to catch and pass on STIs and saying you would only have tests if your partner did so too is plain selfish. I just hope the women you meet aren't so daft.

I didn't say that I expect the woman to have an STI test if I have one. It might be the case though.

I am not into one night stands.

No- but the woman might have had a 1 night stand and how do you know you are not picking soemthing up and spreading it- symptom-less? Please get real.

Fair point. She might have. I tend to rely on "gut feeling" to guide me. Some people present as open and honest, some are "shady".

There are risks in life, most people take a level of risk.

If I lived, taking no risk at all, I think I would be dull and doing nothing.

If I did find that I had an STI, I would be quick enough to find the last person who I had sex with and tell her to get checked.

Lets face it, sex with someone is much more fun that sex with yourself. To me, that's getting real. The sexual partner should feel the same way, otherwise there is a chance of - No orgasm(s).

N1- you are being daft!
You can't detect chlamydia, thrush, syphillis, HIV etc by a gut feeling! You don't have to be a slapper to have an STI! (speaking as a woman.)
I caught an STI and din't know until I passed it on to another man. The person I caught it from was the last person I would have thought was ignorant of such things. My mistake was to have sex with someone I knew vey well- in terms of years I had known him- but I didn't know what he was getting up to when he with seeing me.
I can see that you might want to take the risk yourself- men's STIs don't do as much damage to their bits as they can to women- unless you are talking HIV and AIDS. But it is very irresponsible of you to assume that "nice girls" can't have an STI, or that you might be carrying bugs and not knowing it.
This is the way that STIs are spread, as everyone thinks "Oh it can't possibly happen to me."

N1 - I would suggest going for an STI test just this last once. Then I would suggest every time you start a new relationship asking that person to have one aswell. If she also wants you to have one you should oblige. You may know you can't have an STI if all your partners previous have been clear but she doesn't and you should respect that.

I am willing to have an STI test, if requested. I know I am careful. I do accept that people can be mislead, honestfriend seems to have got caught in that situation. Perhaps I am one of the lucky ones, the other side of the coin suggests that I might not be so lucky in the future. I can honestly say, hand on heart that I have never had an STI before. and I hope to not have one either.

I am not in any relationship, but I was asked to have an STI test (some time back) and that arrangement is in the process. I already know the results will be negative. It's not me who needs confirmation. Whether the sex would be regular, I don't know. I shouldn't be optimistic. I didn't feel it nessesary to ask the girl to have the same test. I am convinced that she hasn't had any sex since the last time she was tested (her choice). I have found no reason to doubt her word.

All I can say is that leaving it to "hope and optimism" is not the best way to go about it all!
I was caught out once- we only had sex once as well! I did not have any symptoms when I had the disease. I found out only by another man telling me he had caught something from me- had we not still been in contact, then I would no thave known and could have infected others, who might not have been able to trace it back to me!
I was cheered at one stage in my life when another (new) man openly told me he had just been for STI tests in case "we got closer" as he had had an encounter with a woman he didn't know very well- and he wanted to be sure he was ok. That's the way to behave!

No I don't always come. The usual reasons I suppose tiredness/alcohol/anti-depressants (much like women as far as I can see). Sometimes it can get a bit numb down there if you have been at it for a long time also I am much less likely to come if doing it again soon after. Ejaculation and orgasm are exactly the same thing for me as a man.

Oh yes - condoms - I forgot about those bloody things. They make it much less sensitive down there and I have struggled to come sometimes when wearing one.