Do men orgasm every time they have sex?

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My first partner did. As did I. I thought that was normal.

Yet, with other people, I often don't (but that's ok) and sometimes they don't. One of them was impotent so getting it up was a big deal and I am not surprised that he didn't ejaculate but my new partner doesn't always either. And he is very good in bed. Is it that I am rubbish? Or is it normal for a man not to ejaculate?

Am very embarrassed to ask this.

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will sort it

I dated a guy once who said, that his dream was to orgasm like a woman, he stated that the mans orgasm was shorter lived than a womans

maybe he wanted to multiple orgasm

we do need a man on here

c'mon guys get on the thread

have posted a link on dadsnet

perhaps they are chicken

Just asked fella and he said that men don't orgasm every time but that does not mean they are not enjoying it. Sometimes they are concentrating on the woman that they forget to cum

I would definitely say that it is 'normal' (usual) for men to have an orgasm when they have sex. The only reason I can think of for a guy not to come is the effect of certain medications (anti-depressants mostly), age, or simply being keen to impress - the latter sounding most likely here.

Yes they do. And sometimes when they are not having sex.

It is possible to orgasm "dry" too AFAIK- ie no ejaculation but a sensation of orgasm. Happens after several bouts and the, er, supply has run out. Not coming at all is "normal" for everyone at least sometimes, even if not "usual". I really wouldn't worry that it's you- I'd hate to think my DP was worrying he wasn't good enough just because I was having trouble quite getting there.

Bloke here, as requested.

It's tricky as we are using different words for different things. i.e. orgasm/ejaculate/climax. And yes, viva la difference between men and women!!

it depends on a few things. I have rarely not ejaculated during sexual congress, and that has, as I remember, been due to tiredness and/or alcohol.

The quality of the experience comes and goes, as it were, and at times sex can go on for ages, have a body-shuddering climax, and then be back on the luuurve runway minutes later. Other times it can be once only and more akin to 'practicing on your own' as Woody allen so described masturbation...

yes Pan, I too sensed that people were understanding different things about the terms orgasm/ejaculation

but I felt that men couldn't have one without the other, even if it was "dry" the physical waves were still happening, hence that very nice feeling

so I'm told {fwink}

New fella rarely does if wearing a condom.
greatfor me as i always insist so he lasts for AGES!

just means i have to ahem oblige in other way once im happy

they do when they are having sex with me

I think men can orgasm without ejaculating but not the other way around.

Thanks for linking, anyfucker and to Pan for a man's perspective.

Jazzicatz, that is what I wanted to hear. I am not going to worry about this. If it is a real issue, that will become apparent in time.

Thanks for all replies.

Thinks it true to say that sometimes a man will deliberately "hold back", esp in a new realtionship, so as for it not to be over too soon. And then find that he "can't" because he held back too long.

Doesn't mean (I dont think!) that the woman is rubbish or he doesn't fancy her enough

another bloke here.

Condoms are bad news for trying to cum. There is like no sensation.

Do I cum every time when I have sex...yes.

One an occasion (with an ex girlfriend) I tried the delaying cream.....bad move.... 2 (or more) hours later and I wasn't near cumming, my back was tired, be were both dripping with sweat. lesson learned and not again. I gave up and went to sleep.

If a bloke doesn't cum while having sex, best to ask if he did cum....silly question to ask, but I had a girl who couldn't feel me cum (not sure why).

It's not to pleasant, but it's possible to cum and keep moving (having sex), but the erection starts to go...if the bloke keeps moving with a semi erection (perhaps saying - pushed in and rocking is better), the erection comes back after about 10 or 20 minutes and round 2... It's not easy to do this, perhaps easier for younger blokes. Round 2 is hard work to cum a second time.

If the girl was (and I don't mean this offensively) loose, which cau1sed me to have sex and it wasn't sensitive enough or tight enough to be sensitive enough.... the girl best start her pelvic floor exercises.

Stronger pelvic flood is much better sex.

Hopefully that answered the question.

I just thought to add, if the bloke doesn't like the girl he is with, he might not cum, though I have to wonder why or how he was having sex with her in the first place.

N1 what about those durex fether condoms or the elite ones - they are supposed to be really thin so you feel more?

Then there's ribbed, sensations, pleasuremax, tingle you name it supposedly meant to improve sex.

I always fake it. Don't tell Mrs Z though...

Just to make things clear - N1 wasn't referring to me. Not that I can remember anyway.

To be honest, I avoid condoms. It's got to the point where I would rather not have sex than use a condom.

I have not tried the Durex feather condoms, I can't imagine them being any different to usual condoms.

About a year back, I tried Durex sensation and performance. One was as rubbish as the other.

There is nothing better than flesh on flesh.

I tend to want something long-term and stable. I don't think I am any good at an one night stand. The thought is intresting, but if I don't know the person, I want to get that sorted before I have sex. Perhaps I am odd.....

You're not odd

Unless you know someone's absolute sexual history- icluding their being tested for HIV and all STIs, and herpes and warts, etc etc, then condoms are a must.

N1 - you don't have to be promiscuous to get a disease. Your partner only needs to have been with 1 other person who had caught it from someone else- to pass it on to you- and you could be symptomless, but pass it to a woman.

I caught an STI from the 2nd man I slept with- unknown to me, he was not being faithful.

That does worry me tbh i know my DP probably would avoid using a condom if he possibly could.

Am hoping the threat of castration if he ever gave me a disease is sufficient to put him off lol