i have fair weather family

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my family only want to know/be around me when im well .if im ill they all scarper wtf is wrong with them ???
anyone have family like this???

Are you ok at the moment? What do you mean by ill?

im getting there have had depression and when i have it my family just dont want to know me no phone calls to see how i am no visits nothing but when im well they want to chat to me on the phone want me to go there houses for tea etc,maybe they just dont know what to say ?

Agree with MMJ. Although I think if this was a close relative of mine I would visit and call often.
Feel for you. What about your friends?

i am very quiet when im ill and not much fun to be with maybe thats why my dh is always telling me that hes the only one who really cares for me and im starting to think this is true.i do so much for them and dont seem to get anything in return

i have good friends and they are checking on me and asking if they can do anything.

What a odd thing for your DH to say esp when your depressed . Speak to them. Honestly you wont know why unless you ask.

See they care. I am sure your family do - maybe they don't know what to do?

i think hes angry with them .his family are abroad and his family are very close and he cant understand how they can be like that

Please speak to them give tem a chance to explain themselves.

I agree with TMMJ. Your husband's comment is alarming.

My XP used to do this too. Make out his family were wonderful and mine weren't, were weird, wrong in the way they treated me etc.

Not saying your DH is doing this but think about what his relationship with your family has been like before.

Is it possible he feels threatened by them?

And yes, speak to your family. Tell them how you feel.

Do you think that they wouldn't care?