Would you date someone who is older than your father?

[Flightattendant4]

Or would it just be an instant 'no'?

tbh flight, i don't think many young woman have a problem attracting older men....

good luck with everything..hope it works out

my sister does, and my dad is very old

Go for it, he sounds lovely. My sil recently married a man older than her dad and they are really happy, if he has a young outlook its fine.

No

Maybe that is the reason he likes you Flight, or he could like you for you. either way if you don't have a problem with it then whats to stop you.

Oh and btw Dh is 15 years older then me and in our case I am still the more mature.

Thanks for breaking it to me gently, feel a bit stupid now. Of course it would be easy to attract someone old. Was feeling quite pretty for a bit then, was just an illusion...he must think I am desperate.

im very tall.
I always had a rule that i wouldn't date anyone shorter than me.

im currently seeing a guy of 5'7 and am blissfully happy.
i was convinced it would feel weird but it doesn't.

go for a date and see how you feel. if your all yukked out then it needs not go any further, if your not then why not go for it?

No, no, no.. don't feel stupid, I'm sure he doesn't think you're desperate, desperate is really not at all attractive. What HRH said.

My father is 40 years older than me... and 50 years older than my sister... so NO! Don't think I'd go there

Dp is the same age as my dad (44) and im 26, it's not an issue with us really, we met through my parents and fell for eachother instantly, i already had dd1 so was mature for my age. 5 years later and we have had another 3 daughters and plan to marry in the next couple of years.

Yes, when I was in my 20s I fancied someone who must have been late 50s-early 60s.
It wasn't about the money at al.
He was just gorgeous.

Put no rules on what you do, judge it on the person

If your father was really young when you were born, then maybe.

In general, I'd say NO though. My stepmother is virtually the same ages as me. It is very uncomfortable.

Instant no from me

Flightattendant - I'm not saying he's attracted to you because you are younger. I just think that all other things being equal (looks, intelligence, personality & so on), if a 60yr old bloke had to pick between a date with a 40yr old woman or someone his own age, he'd probably go for the younger one.

But that is a huge generalisation, you might be drop-dead gorgeous for all we know, both on the inside as well as the outside (IYSWIM), and that might be the attraction for him. But I'd approach with caution if it were me.

Carmenere - I would totally understand the attraction of a foxy, wealthy, adventurous James Bond figure for a quickie, but if I were looking for dates as a prelude to a possible relationship (and, at this point in my life, someone to be part of my kids' lives) I'd be looking for someone bringing different cards to the table - and the bus pass would not be on my list

He thought I was in my twenties
I'm 35 but look younger apparently

His daughter is about 20 something..29? They are very close.

I hate travelling anyway, he is always on and off planes. It would be a disaster.

I'm sure he'll find someone else to muck about with, he works with young people, has a lot of charisma...I'm sure I'm not the only one.

I am into him, just processing it all at the moment. I am also into someone else who is 44, and isn't into me.

Maybe I should just give up...

Go with your instincts, for some it would be a problem, for others not. My DP is 48, and I am 25. We have a young baby together. When I met him I wondered if the age would be a factor, but it hasn't really been an issue. I think if you like someone, you like them. I think Michael Caine is brilliant, but he'd getting on a bit! However, if we were both single...

Seriously, don't automatically rule it out, just see how you feel and how you interact. When the age gap with my partner does rear its ugly head, I feel like a silly little girl that he is telling off, e.g for using too much hot water Or I feel lonely because we like different music, he has more life experience and we don't always experience things the same way. However, we have similar taste in films, and like the same ways of spending our time, so generally we get on very well!
Good luck. I saw your other threads and feel for you - try not to let being very ready to meet the right person colour your thinking. If they are meant to come along they will, and you won't need to worry about them, they'll just be right for you.

Maybe you should just hang out with his daughter - she might know some foxy guys in your own "age bracket"

thanks smellen, that makes sense.

I think I'll just go and watch star wars and forget about him

((hugs)) I would give him a chance, you don't want to look back and think, what if.. Don't give up, there is someone out there

In fairness the older man I was attracted to was a millionaire property developer who was very Sean Connery-esque. But I do have a bit of a thing for one of my mates dad too maybe I am a gerontophile......

Thanks Vicky as well.

It is so hard having to wait though. I know you're right.

I did have my eye on John Thaw, but well, he kind of didn't hang about...

There is something about a dignified older man. He's lovely, honestly - my mum fancies him too

Carmenere LOL. I think I've got the potential to be the grandma from Little Britain (the one that David Walliams hits on)! Only time will tell