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Do All Men Love and Need Blow-jobs?

92 replies

babypoo · 08/11/2008 22:41

?

Well do they? Seems to me like they do.

Toughdaddy will be along in a moment with a considered answer lifted straight from the online edition of the sydney morning herald....

OP posts:
Kiwinyc · 25/02/2010 13:59

Haven't got experience of 'All' men either but my DH doesn't really like them. He's the only one I've met that doesn't though.

Malificence · 25/02/2010 14:42

My DH loves it but doesn't see it as a full
sexual act, it's just foreplay for him, I'm happy to carry on to completion but he's not that fussed, after so many years, his body is trained to respond to mine.

MuzRM · 25/02/2010 15:32

As a guy, I can say I really do like them but I don't expect them. If she's not comfortable then it's no deal breaker. Anything sexual I expect both to be completely comfortable with it.

OrmRenewed · 25/02/2010 15:36

Of course they don't need them!

SpookOnAStick · 25/02/2010 23:01

Can I ask a serious question? I've been trying to find the answer for so long. I'e looked on the internet, I've bought books by the bucketload.. I've got to the age of 42 without knowing..

Are you supposed to suck when giving a bj? If so, how hard?

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 25/02/2010 23:05

Most men love them. Nobody needs them. I love oral sex (getting) and although I'd be very sad if I couldn't have it ever again I would survive.

I don't think either of us get enough though - gonna have to rectify that i think!

TrillianAstra · 25/02/2010 23:06

This is a v old thread, no?
Answer is most men love, but no man needs, a blow-job.

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 25/02/2010 23:09

Are you supposed to suck? You can, as part of it, but not toooo hard. It can be good I think. Ball sucking is good too I kinda suck as I'm on the upswing sometimes (IYSWIM) which seems to go down well.

TrillianAstra · 25/02/2010 23:09

Spook - you are supposed to lick rather than suck, although sucking is good too, and it works better if you are using your hand at the bottom as well as your mouth at the top.

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 25/02/2010 23:11

Again? Why do people post on ancient threads? Oh well always time for a BJ thread.........

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 25/02/2010 23:15

Hahahahahaha

I see why this thread was resurrected - here is a snippet from that site - hilarious!

Submission

The first reason is submission. In order for you to give your man oral sex, you have to be vulnerable to him, and you have to submit to him. This is one quick way for a man to feel more like a man; having a woman give him oral sex.

The visual aspect of submission is also a factor. For example, if a woman kneels before a man, this indicates that she is completely submitting to him, and giving him power/letting him dominate.

Of course, the act of oral sex is the ultimate in femininity, as a woman has to be in her feminine (although not always, as some women are closed when they do it, and do it out of obligation) in order to actually give him oral sex. It is possible to shut down and remove yourself from the experience and not be fully present with your man when you are doing it.

Vulnerability

In order to give a man oral sex, a woman has to be vulnerable to him. In fact, she has to open to him and be comfortable with being vulnerable to him. Of course, some women engage in oral sex out of obligation, or feel that they have to in order to please their man, so they do it.

In other words, their heart is not in it. If a woman?s heart is not in it, and she?s doing it on autopilot, then she is not fully vulnerable to him, and the man will sense this, although he will most likely not want to accept that she is doing it out of obligation.

The concept of vulnerability goes hand-in-hand with the idea of trust. The masculine energy has a really strong need to be trusted. And of course, if you are comfortable being fully vulnerable to him, then this indicates that you are trusting of him.

Why do men love blowjobs?

Admiration

Another reason is that the act of being given oral sex is a symbol of admiration for the man. Without being rude or unnecessarily graphic, a man?s penis is as close to the heart of his manhood as you can get. Men subconsciously or consciously see it as part of what makes them a man. If a woman rejects this part of him, it leads him to think that she is not attracted to him, or that she doesn?t love him.

EasyEggs · 25/02/2010 23:25

HAHA!!!

Bollocks, excuse the pun

I give dp blowjobs because I like doing it and he enjoys them. Nothing more to it, no weird hidden agenda or psychological reasons.

It feels nice for him, I like doing it, end of.

Oh I know it's a rehashed thread but in answer, not ALL men love them and no men NEED them

SpookOnAStick · 25/02/2010 23:59

Thankyou Kat and Trillian.

InmaculadaConcepcion · 26/02/2010 09:36

Spook, if you rummage back a bit in the Relationships section, there was a most excellent thread a few weeks back on how to give a good BJ - MN BJ experts shared their knowledge (and it was hilarious, too).

Enjoy!

Kiwinyc · 26/02/2010 18:53

I think a bloke is being quite vulnerable too when receiving a BF though - i mean you could do quite a bit of damage with your teeth if you're not careful...!

mummee09v · 26/02/2010 18:56

I am sure my DP doesnt NEED them but he sure LOVES them.

But I LOVE giving them and I know I am good at it ;) so everyones a winner really. ;)

qumquat · 28/02/2010 12:04

Don't most women love getting oral sex too? What's the difference? Both DP and I prefer oral sex to penetrative sex, and both enjoy giving as well as receiving!

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