Anyone tried relate?

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Has anyone been to relate?

What is it like? what kind of thing do you do? is it like sitting in a room together talking with a councilor etc? did it help?

yes. it helped. We knew we loved each other, and there weren't any major issues like infidelity, but we were both under a huge amount of stress and it helped us communicate better. The counsellor says as little as possible really, she just facilitates the conversation between you. I think it can help you know whether to stay together or not.

My experience of it was awful actually. I don't think it's for everyone.

i think it depends on the person you get. i liked our woman but can imagine in the wrong hands...

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Mmm, it felt at the assessment session (when you have to wait for the real thing weeks later) that talking about stuff at all was like setting a massive hand grenade off which we had to then go away and deal with. And it was miles away, so a stony car journey too which was hellish. Glad we split up, don't think Relate would have helped.

It is vital that you get the right person- all counsellors are totally different- they are human!

If you feel you don't gel with one, try another one. You don't have to go to Relate- there are many excellent counsellors and you can find them on the BACP website.
www.bacp.co.uk