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Original poster

Have you ever lost it and stormed out of the house in a strop?

83 replies

Kathyis6incheshigh · 27/10/2008 17:28

????
Dh thinks it constitutes extreme, Eastenders-style behaviour. I think it is immature and a bit silly () but lots of people have done this at some time, haven't they?

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UnquietDad · 27/10/2008 18:09

I have done the "going for a long walk without saying" thing. DW and kids came in car to find me... Which was exactly the desired result

twinsetandpearls · 27/10/2008 18:15

Yes my strops are all designed for someone to find me and say please come home you fabulous person I can't live without, a bit like my mumsnet flounces.

Lauriefairycake · 27/10/2008 18:15

god, that's just so passive-aggressive UQD

ElfOnTheTopShelf · 27/10/2008 18:17

Of course, isn't it part of the relationship terms and conditions that you strop off at least once?

feelingbitbetter · 27/10/2008 18:17

Snowleopard you been arguing with my DP? He does that too and it drives me bloody mad! I end up getting more angry over his analytical style of arguing than whatever we were arguing about in the first place. Grrrrr!

ElfOnTheTopShelf · 27/10/2008 18:22

My dad stropped off once on my mum, drove off in the middle of the night in a huff, none of us knew where he was, we uttered sentences like "wrapped around a tree" etc and made him feel very guilty about it.

I strop off and get in the car, reverse down the road and sit out of view of the house. I put the music up and sing along to the radio until I feel calm enough to tootle back home.

Last time I stropped was over a cheeseburger. I stropped and made DH take DD to bed.

DH isn't a stormer, he'll just go off to bed, and that really annoys me!

LaDiDaDi · 27/10/2008 18:25

I too have stropped to the cinema, saw a HP film so it was almost worth the row. Dp often goes for a dtive and then realises he has been silly and returns with chocs or icecream.

Last time dp and I ended up almost wrestling each other to the door in a race to be the one who stropped off. I think we then realised that we were being a bit childish .

GirlWithTheMouseyHair · 27/10/2008 18:28

only once and it was a month ago so 8.5 months pregnant - we so rarely row (prob once a year on average) and I was really upset at the time, left with keys, no phone, sat at a bus stop for 45 mins thinking it was only 10mins calming myself down (seriously needed some fresh air) and feeling horribly guilty for getting wound up when baby started thrashing around.

Got home to an empty flat, 54 missed calls from DH who'd left about 30secs after me and was walking the streets looking for me. He was very nice when I cam home which made me feel even more guilty!

Having said that, it was good to just walk it off and get some fresh air

MadamDeathstare · 27/10/2008 18:33

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snowleopard · 27/10/2008 18:34

You know feelingbitbetter, I don't think I've ever got really mad during a row about the actual issue that started the row. I get mad because we get so far off the point and I get so wound up by DP picking holes in what I've said, or misrepresenting what I said 10 minutes earlier. He should have been a lawyer!

snigger · 27/10/2008 18:43

The best (and, now I think of it, only) advice my Mum gave me regarding married life was:

If you storm out after a row, never forget your purse. If you storm within the house, pick a room with a tv.

twinsetandpearls · 27/10/2008 20:09

snigger

HankyHunker · 27/10/2008 20:22

I got home from my second 14.5 hr shift in a row, the first one of which I missed my bus and had to walk the 3 miles home after being on my feet all day and getting in a grand total of 7 hrs before I had to be up again. bad night sleep, second shift had a v v poorly patient... you get my drift.

Got home at 5 to 10 to drunk DP and mate with v loud music and a freshly ordered take out pizza and complaints that I'm home about 10 minutes early...

I tantrumed and went out for a stomp. I got hit with a fucking potato for my trouble. A fucking potato by a bunch of boy racers. I thought I had been shot. I stood, wounded in the street and flopped back onto a low level wall and looked for blood. Then, realising it wasn't a bullet I looked for a rock. Went home feeling even more sorry for myself, confused as to what had hit me.

next day I put me coat on and found this half rotten moderate sized potato. Moral of the story is eat the fucking pizza and don't throw your toys out of the pram.

Original poster
Kathyis6incheshigh · 28/10/2008 08:36

These posts are great, thank you everyone

I like Laurie's point about how it's not bad, it's just removing yourself from the situation.

I don't think I was being passive-aggressive like UnquietDad ()- this was as much about the fact that I needed to get away from dd's constant screaming of 'Go away Mummy! Want Daddy to put me to bed! Don't want you to put me to bed because you're not as pretty as Daddy!()' as about the fact that dh was being unsympathetic about it.

However I was secretly a bit pleased when I got home and dh said he'd been driving round the village looking for me, which I hadn't expected - didn't occur to me he'd be worried, I was gone less than an hour.

PMSL @ Psycho's Travelodge story, and LaDiDa racing her dp to be the first one to the door. Brilliant!

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ShyandRetiring · 28/10/2008 08:49

pretended to go off in a strop once, hid in the cupboard,

it worked, got a bottle of perfume out of it

LurkerOfTheUniverse · 28/10/2008 08:55

did this once, years ago, got in the car and the pile of rusting shite wouldn't start

had to creep sheepishly back into the house for help

dp was in hysterics

souroldtrout · 28/10/2008 08:59

Don't do this if you have kids ... please. My childhood was punctuated by my mother storming out of the house, often in the rain in her slippers with no coat. We would be beside ourselves with anxiety and end up driving round looking for her. I realise lots of you are doing this in an angry way rather than a distressed way, but a child can't always tell the difference, or know whether you are coming back. Horrible horrible thing to do.

morningpaper · 28/10/2008 09:00

I stormed out of a restaurant once

such a blardy feminist that I paid half the bill first

somewhat took the edge off the moment

DH still talks about it

ShyandRetiring · 28/10/2008 09:05

rofl mp.
no - before dcs.
and once when they were away.

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 28/10/2008 09:14

DD didn't know there was anything up - she was lying on the bathroom floor refusing to move and when I stormed down DH waited a few minutes and put her to bed before going off to look for me. (Au pair was upstairs, in case you think I was leaving children unattended).

Souroldtrout - what you are describing sounds like an ongoing issue as a symptom of some deeper problem rather than a one-off unusual event. The former is much more likely to be harmful and upsetting than the latter.

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Original poster
Kathyis6incheshigh · 28/10/2008 09:15

that should say 'went' down not 'stormed' down, the storming only came once I was downstairs!

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WideWebWitch · 28/10/2008 09:15

I've done it, yes
I always come back, obviously.

filz · 28/10/2008 09:15

no

WideWebWitch · 28/10/2008 09:16

lol at Travelodge, I have tried (and failed, they were full) to book into our nearest one too, I was in my pyjamas with a coat on over the top.

bythepowerofgreyskull · 28/10/2008 09:17

I have done this.. mostly because it is that or hurt someone..

my neighbour does it quite alot a few times she has arrived here with no shoes/ mismatched shoes