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Has anyone ever though of sleeping with another women?

443 replies

sep1712 · 07/10/2008 17:39

Am i the only person that would truely admit to thinking about sleeping with another women?
I'm happly married to a great man, that can keep me happy in every way but would love to try a women if only once before i die!
Do you think i'm strange?

OP posts:
quicky · 09/10/2008 15:03

No Iheart - I'm about 30 miles from Glasgow and 15 from Edinburgh!

mampam · 09/10/2008 15:03

quicky am very intrigued about your DH's "wanted to do before I do moment"

ButWhyMum · 09/10/2008 15:05

Do tell quicky or save for another time

iheartginashoes · 09/10/2008 15:06

Got ya quicky..... I think...I'm about 20 mins from you.

iheartginashoes · 09/10/2008 15:07

YEAH GO ON QUICKY - SPILL!!

quicky · 09/10/2008 15:07

mampam - don't be! his involved a trip to amsterdam and a very "cheap" lady - was a long while ago and didn't live up to his expectations!!

solidgoldskullonastick · 09/10/2008 15:10

Whether or not something is 'cheating' depends on the individual coule involved. Quite a lot of people think that a partner having a bi-curious adventure is nothing like the problem it would be if the partner slept with someone of the opposite sex.

solidgoldskullonastick · 09/10/2008 15:10

Whether or not something is 'cheating' depends on the individual coule involved. Quite a lot of people think that a partner having a bi-curious adventure is nothing like the problem it would be if the partner slept with someone of the opposite sex.

quicky · 09/10/2008 15:12

Sure I could find better things to discuss with you than my DH's moment butwhymum

mampam · 09/10/2008 15:19

quicky, lets hope that your "moment" if and when it comes (excuse the pun), is better that your DH's.

It does make you wonder though, if some things are better left just being a fantasy?

quicky · 09/10/2008 15:24

There is another question for you - how often does the reality live up to the fantasy?

Although i have to say that I'd rather know for sure than live my life wondering what it would be like

LostHorizon · 09/10/2008 15:27

@ mampam

I once went out with someone who wanted to be caned. Not just minor playful slaps on the bum, but full-on painful caning.

I couldn't do it, she got the 'ump, and it was never the same again. Fizzled out not long after.

Convinced me that people with "out-there" kinks have, er, issues.

Not sure women wanting to fiddle with other women is in the same league. Who could not want to fiddle with her, for example? Let's face it, if you had to, you probably could.

iheartginashoes · 09/10/2008 15:27

In the immortal words of Shakespeare.. its better to regret something you have done rather than something you havent.

Also another favourite of mine - its easier to gain forgivness than permission

solidgoldskullonastick · 09/10/2008 15:31

Losthorizon, what an ignorant and arrogant view of sexuality that post displays. Basically, you're saying that whatever turns you on is fine but things that other consenting adults like mean they must have 'issues'.
It's fair enough that you didn't want to cane your partner (no one should feel obliged to do anything sexual or sex-related that they don't want to do) but if you were not prepared to give her the sort of sex she liked, a) why are you surprised the relationship fizzled out and b) what gives you the right to sneer at her?

ButWhyMum · 09/10/2008 15:31

Interesting point quicky...and one which i intend to resolve

mampam · 09/10/2008 15:38

LostHorizen, point taken!!

I guess it is better to regret what you have done than something you have not.

The point I was trying to make was that I've had many years of really good fantasies about myself in a bit of girl on girl action but if the reality isn't as good as the fantasy then I'll have lost years worth of future fantasies IYSWIM?

quicky · 09/10/2008 15:39

mampam - the reality would be what you make of it

mampam · 09/10/2008 15:40

Alright, I guess if it came down to it I wouldn't be thinking about the reality living up to the fantasy thing, I would probably be thinking (or doing) other things!!

iheartginashoes · 09/10/2008 15:41

I had a bit of an "orgy" back in my mis-spent youth... that was definately a disappointment. My and a "friend" and 4 or 5 blokes in a hotel room.....

quicky · 09/10/2008 15:42

.... swept up in the moment so to speak?

ButWhyMum · 09/10/2008 15:44

What was dissapointing about it iheart?

iheartginashoes · 09/10/2008 15:44

Utterly and totally trashed more like

mampam · 09/10/2008 15:45

iheart, I think in that sort of situation the men would be so turned on they wouldn't last very long anyway!!??? Men generally (not all men) wanna just get their rocks off and would be doing just so, they wouldn't be treating us like the goddesses we would want to be treated as.

quicky · 09/10/2008 15:46

Not sure about that iheart - now 2 or 3 girls??? Is that taking my curiosity too far

iheartginashoes · 09/10/2008 15:46

Totally wasted, me and a "mate" group of guys on a stag do... just ended up a huge tangled mess of sex and masterbation.... another time another place and nicer people would be amazing. This was just sleazy and dirty and not nice... in hindsight of course... was good at the time

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