Apparently h's 29yr old ow is more fun and happier than me! No Shit!!

[WhirlingStirling]

I am not really looking for a response. I know I will just feel better ranting for a few minutes.

We were trying (again) to see if we could make things work after his affair. He had promised (again) not to contact her but told me last night, when questioned, that he had taken her for lunch just 2 weeks ago when he was in her country. He hadn't offered this info - yet again I had to question him. So, she is more fun than me and they can go out whenever they want (guess what?? She has no dc!)

He doesn't really want to be married to me anymore but he still wants things to carry on as normal in the house, for the dc's sake. So he thinks I will still be cooking and cleaning for him

Well (as Custy so eloquently put in an earlier thread) Fuck Him and the Horse he Rode in on!!

You know - I am feeling slightly better already! Thank You

thanks stirling
I know, its sad isnt it. Why do they want to run out on their families? is responsibility that hard to bear? or are we really that hard to live with (hmm, perhaps if they want a single life while they are part of a family then to them we ARE hard to live with)

to them, the grass is always greener. they want us to make the decision, then they can mope about blaming us when they realise they miss what they had.

losers.

hiya Whirlingstirling - hope you find some peace soon - I have been putting up and shutting up for 4 years now - almost certainly has made me a not so nice mum - my confidence is at rock bottom and I wish to god I had the strength to break free - good luck girl

Hey Stirling, >>hugs

Good luck Alexa, will be thinking of you on Thursday. Surely you can be on MN during the CS? Us women know how to multitask

unhappy Please dont put up with such a terrible situation. Even if it is only a plan, look into how you could cope without your h. I dont know how you can last 4 yrs. The last 11 months have been hell for me. Can't do it much longer.

I am intrigued that your DH is in Budapest Stirling. Wonder if my DH knows him?

My email is budamn at g mail dot com - would love to know if we have come across him. Quite understand if you don't want to tell me - just ignore me if so! I won't be offended.

Buda just e-mailed you - see if you know the company he works for...

Whirling - replied

BTW Whirling, I'm 29 and I'm no fucking fun. Guess why? Because I am a wife and mother to an 18 month old. She won't be any bloody fun in a couple of years either.

Bint.

Idiot.

Thanks Georgimama - you just made me snort laughing.

I have another confession - bought another top today and a Nintendo ds game for dc on h's credit card - things are starting to look up

You've got his credit card*

Honey, what are you waiting for? Go shop!!

I am doing my best - not much good shopping in Stirling. I said earlier - I feel a trip to Edinburgh coming on

BTW I am 43 and can be fun if taken out of the house, after dark, and given a few glasses of good red wine! I think he has forgotten that!!

Hey WS - can we all put in an order on h's credit card??

Hope you are feeling a bit better now - take it easy on yourself, you are a strong lovely woman.

PS I am 43 too!!
And i hope i am still fun - and in fact have more life experience than most 29 year olds.

Maybe they aren't too interested in the fact we have life experience! I think they prefer a clean slate, to start again.

I think I need a slap today - he is being nice to me and I am desperately trying to remember all the shitty things he has done, and am sure will continue to do over the next few months.

You don't need shops, you have the internet. Go go go!

georgiemama that was exactly what I was thinking!! Internet shop!! you can do much more damage that way - although you can't treat yourself to a Starbucks along the way!!

Good luck Stirling - stay strong!!

Thanks - yes it is the wandering around shops, child-free, stopping for coffee whenever I want that appeals

Oh, a younger woman with no kids is more fun? Really?

What a fucking knobhead.

Sod wandering round shops, stopping for coffee. Get on the net and melt that card, the bell end deserves it.

Snarf and guffaarw at stress incontinence.

Loving the quotes above You are not a failure Whirly!

am also 43, its a great age

great as in fab, not as in very old

His latest thoughts are that maybe he just needs to be single for a while as he didn't play around enough before we married.

My heart bleeds for him

Hi WS sorry your having such a shit time. Know ust how you feel as my DH has just left us for an affair. Some men are such pricks. As per usual I am left holding the fort whilst he thinks he is a hero for seeing the kids occasionally. Be strong!

Didn't play around enough?

Does he really think there is/was an endless queue of women who want to fuck him?

God, some men are just completely devoid of humility or self-doubt aren't they?

I hope he gets herpes.