Dh and I have decided that enough is enough and we are seperating, how do we tell the children?

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Its breaking my heart, am in tears now, relationship has been rocky for a while and we have been having arguments of which the children have heard.

My dd has said that she is particularly scared of us splitting up, how do i tell her what she most fears has come to pass. I dont think I can do it without bursting into tears myself.

We have only just moved into the area we are living in and it is very likely that I will need to move again as I dont have much of a support network, I need to be around people that can help keep me holding body and soul together, which involves moving. Again this will impact my dd the most as she has settled really well into the new school environment.

Any advice would be gratefully received.

things are fast moving in our house, last weekend h was in the spare room, next weekend he could be out of the house! watch this space.

will explain to dcs if/when he is leaving, its easier for me to deal with at the moment as we both appear very amicable. However once our final decision has been reached we will tell them.

I don't think it good to say to much, in my case because either of us can still change our minds. My dcs are 7 and 9 and would be confused if we changed back to the way we were, you can see I am hoping for a reconciliation.

We had another 'talk' at the wekend, and dh has said tat he is happy for us to be in separate rooms. I am finding this final step really hard tho, I don't want to tell the dc cos I know it will hurt and destabilise them.
I just wish it was all over, me in my room and him in his.

hi spakybabe, no advice just there for you if you need to let rip!!!!