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when it comes to cars do men have a brain?

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FineFigureFio · 21/02/2005 08:46

honestly, I am sure my husband is having a pre mid life crisis

last night he says "I am getting a motorbike to go to work on"

me "fine"
him "are you not bothered?"
me "no"
him " why????? not??????? I could kill myself"
me "we have life insurance dont we?"
him " is that all you care about??!!! I thought it would irritate you i wanted one "
me "do you want one or not?"
him "yes"
me" fine cos I can have the car"
him "well i want a sports car"
me " whats wrong with our car, and where would the dogs go if we had a sports car"
him " dunno but I still want a sports car"
me" and a motorbike"
him "yes"
me sigh

this then escalating into a sort of bickering match. Do these conversations happen in everyones elses house, and it does sound like a mid-life crisis doesnt it? or is he just a typical man/prick?

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fairyfly · 21/02/2005 09:27

Sorry for laughing but it sounds to me as if he's fishing for some compliments and you basically pointed out you don't really care if he kills himself. I would say the same though, perhaps he's feeling a little vulnerable sob

Ha ha guess what though, my boyfriend and his brother are looking at them today, i said well i have enough to worry about without worrying about you but if you think im going to find you sexually attractive in leathers your going to have a bit of a shock

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FineFigureFio · 21/02/2005 10:18

oh I do care if he kills himself. i just dont think it is a big deal, and surely he should be happy about that?!

I will never understand men

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jen93 · 21/02/2005 12:29

sounds like a typical man to me, my dp is so unrealistic about the car he wants we have an estate and i thought that would calm his driving down, i was wrong! i think that to men having a good/expensive car makes them feel good about themselves

handlemecarefully · 21/02/2005 12:46

So familiar.

My dh wants a third car. There is his (for work), mine (for work and for family trips) and he wants a third car - preferably something flashy and ostentatious that we can have pleasure drives in (whatever they are?)

MrsWednesday · 21/02/2005 13:17

I laughed out loud when I read this. Me and DH have the same conversation on a regular basis. He currently wants to get rid of his Volvo and get a TVR (we have a DS and another baby due in June).

Have decided to ignore him rather than pick an argument about it because eventually he loses interest in the idea (then when talking about it to his mates blames me for 'stopping all his fun').

Newbarnsleygirl · 21/02/2005 13:22

Oh yes!

Dh has always wanted a Jaguar so a year ago he bought one. It's got all the fancy stuff in it like Sat Nav, Voice activation, touch screen, in car phone etc.

The warrenty has now run out on it and he's bricking em in case anything happens to the bloody car because he knows full well it won't be cheap to fix. The tyres alone cost £150 each not to mention the servicing.

I did point all this out before he bought it but thats just another example of selective hearing in our house!
Stupid man!

SandyR · 21/02/2005 16:14

I think its a male thing. DP and I had the same conversation two weeks ago about him "needing" a tractor (yes a real one). And yesterday he turned up with one that looked like it last saw service during the 2nd world war. We only have a mid sized garden and we do not need a tractor. When he started talking about attachments for the tractor I told him I "need" a quad bike, he's been awfully quiet since. Would suggest a similar tactic.

MrsWednesday · 21/02/2005 16:45

SandyR, that is sooo funny.

marthamoo · 21/02/2005 16:50

Men. Motors. Who knows?

My friend's husband decided they needed a new (family) care - they chatted about it and thought of various sensible options (two children under 4 at the time). Then he roared up a few days later, without warning, in a red Porsche - 3 door, real flash sports job. She thought he'd borrowed it for a test drive to wind her up but no, he'd bought it - without even consulting her. She called it the Pimpmobile.

alicatsg · 21/02/2005 17:03

Dh has no interest in cars - unless one of the boys is around when he comes over all Jeremy Clarkson and talks car bollocks (including blaming me for his choice of car - Focus). Funny thing is he really hasn't a clue and gets this sweaty, panicky look about him as if he knows that any second now he's gonna make a really obvious mistake and be outed as a non car-ist.

WHy they just don't whack their bits out and compare sizes I don't know. WOuld save time, money and the environment.

Blu · 21/02/2005 17:08

Er, when it comes to ANYTHING do men have a brain?

SandyR · 21/02/2005 17:13

Blu, they seem to have brains enough to have worked out that a wife/girlfriend is a good thing for cooking for them, cleaning up after them and being their surrogate mothers. Beyond that, I'm with you...

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FineFigureFio · 21/02/2005 17:41

SandyR, why did he want a tractor? that is so funny

Blu

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SandyR · 21/02/2005 17:57

I don't know. I think its a bit like alicatsg said about boys getting their bits out - we're living in France at the moment and most of our french friends/neighbours have one (but then they live on farms or have lots of land). He's a bit like that, last summer it was a local restaurant he wanted to buy. Thank god I talked him out of that one!

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