EEk! I just had the sex/masturbation talk with DD (7)

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Please tell me I did ok!!

Basically DS(3) asked what tampons were for, I explained, DD already knew about periods but after hearing me and DS asked where the blood comes from.

I said your vagina, the hole near your bottom where the baby comes out etc. Cool all fine.
She then asked what the lumpy bit was at the top, yes I panicked, sad I think you mena you clitoris but can't be sure, and sent her up to bed.

Went up to tuck her in and asked if there was anything she wanted to ask me, she spreads her legs, points at her clitoris and asks me, 'This bit mum, what is this?'
I felt so embarrassed, thing is I don't feel at all embarrassed with DS and his bits, is this a problem of mine because I had 'issues' surrounding my vagina when I was a child? or is it normal for a mum to feel really uncomfortable t see her daughters vulva?
Anyway the convo went
DD: what is this?
Me: your clitoris
DD:what is it for?
Me: not quite sure, have you ever touched it?
DD:yes
Me:how did it feel?
DD:nice
Me:Well, not totally sure but I thin it might be to do with having sex, with men and women we have to have sex more than animals to get pg, so I'm assuming it feels nice because we have to do it a lot.
I then explained conception, how it can take a lot of sex to make a baby etc, and left her with no more questions.

What I want to know, did I say the right thing? and is it normal it feel really weird about seeing your DD's vulva or am I projecting?

Thanks.

My 7you dd won't leave her clitoris alone and calls it her "little willy". Maybe I ought to have a talk to her....

Be prepared mugglewump, be on a constant vigilance and always have alcohol, at the ready

my dd6 hasn't found hers yet. but we were playing tickles theother day and she was saying 'tickle me there mummy'

why?

'cos it feels nice thats why'

me--

obv i tickled her elsewhere, but i could sense the disappointment !!

God, I wish I could have seen your face!

Epilator? Furry bum? Doesn't that hurt?!!!

g was a kind of mixed with .
Thankfully, when she showed me all, it was dark so I had 30 seconds to turn the light on and calm myself!

I'm now panicking for the day this conversation will happen, but luckily have years and years to stay tipsy prepare. Could you get the dad to have this conversation with boys???

You see I'd be hesitant telling dd the word clitoris.

When she was 4 she pointed to my nipples and asked what they were called so I thought I'd be cool, unfazed mum and told her they were called nipples.

She's rewarded me at regular intervals since (often at the school gates), by running towards me, shrieking "NIPPLES" at the top of her voice and grabbing my boobs. Often accompanied by shrieks of "MILK" and slurpy noises as she tries to get her mouth round my nipple while I shove her away. She's not been b/f since she was 14months but I'm sure half the village must think I still b/f her.

I have images of her running across the playground screaming "CLITORIS"

I've had to go and open a bottle of wine now at the thought of it.

Oh well done you!!
My dd1 (5) declared she had a willy 'after all' whilst examining herself in the bath a few years ago. I have to say I just explained it wasn't a willy, but didn't tell her what it was. She does know babies come from a special hole between where your wee and poo come from. I remember being amazed that there was a third hole down there .

That sounds awful now I have written it down.... where the special hole is I mean .

I have a ds(9) and dd(7) and they have so far bathed together and, probably, compared bits, so dd thinks that she just has a very small willy.
Ds has a star wars toy light-sabre thing that vibrates when it hits something and dd was playing with it one day and kept putting it between her legs when it vibrated and I asked her why she was doing it and she said it made her willy fizz!!

I think you handled it brilliantly.

My mum was a Freudian analyst and was always very upfront about this sort of stuff. When I was about three another Freudian analyst was visiting and I was running around the garden without any knickers on. I told mum I was going to pee standing up and the visiting analyst looked knowingly at my Mum as 3 is when Freud believed penis envy was common in girls. He asked me if I wished I had a willy and my reply (since much quoted in his papers) was "why would I want a boring old willy when I have a vagina and a clitoris?"

I had the full big chat with my DD1 a couple of months ago (7.5).....

DD1: how does the seed get out of the willy and into the ladies tummy to meet the egg?
Me: well, the man has to pop his willy into the special hole, the same one the baby comes out of
DD1: eeeeuuuurgh, thats disgusting
Me: silent empty mouth opening and shutting
DD1: did you and dad do that?
Me: eh, yeah
DD1: in this house, or at the hospital?
Me: eh, in the house
DD1: that disgusting, I'm never doing that.............night mum, love you
Me: night darling, love you too, sweet dreams

omg this thread is freaknig me out!!! My dd is 5 and a half and I am a bloody midwife fgs, but just thinking about having this type of conversation makes me want to run for the hills! I think with me its that same feeling of not wanting her to grow up too.

But very well done , I hope I can cope as well as you!

LOL frumpy that is classic!!

rofl frumpy

Oh my God - my DS is 7 1/2 and he just doesn't ask these sort of questions - (much to my relieve in a way!)

But now I'm wondering whether I need to to tell him some basic stuff. He's got home from school and said some playground stuff about mummys and daddys doings the sexy dance in bed! I just laughed and changed the subject!!

Am I a crap Mother?! Maybe I should start telling him some facts of life....?

My DD at 2.5 proudly exclaimed that it was her 'winky'.....a little young to be doing the whole 'talk'.
I thought you did brilliantly Victorian, have definitely taken notes to use at a later date. Brought a tear to my eye, how fantastic that your DD feels so ease with you and her body, beautiful.
Cappuccino, the toe comment is still making me laugh. I was laughing so much had to explain the whole thread to DH!

Wow I too think you handled it brilliantly. My dd asked all the questions re sex at age 3 and we explained as best we could and then also got her a book aimed at children. At about 5 she asked more questions so we got a slightly older book and obviously answered all the questions again but we also emphasised it was best she didn't go around telling all her friends as their parents would explain it all to them when they felt they were ready for it. Since then the only other question she has asked is 'Does the Man always have to go on top?'! So am hoping not to have to answer more questions for a few years, she is now 8 but obviously will deal with it when they arise.

josben, my dd is 8 and the same! She still thinks we get babies inserted at the hospital. She doesn't ask and I don't want to be the one to bring it up but I guess I'm going to have to soon.

Blimey- you have a very curious 3 yr old! Never had any such chat with my DD or DS and they are now 20 and 22!

I kept my tampons out of sight- saved a lot of hassle!

Wow you did brilliant!

I had the whole periods/sex talk with dd1 (8) a few weeks ago. She couldn't sleep one night and so we went out for a walk and had the chat - it worked really well.

She was ok about the bleeding but a bit freaked out by sex. "do you and dad DO that? do you LIKE it? do you STILL do it? Are we having ANOTHER baby? (cue talk on vasectomy!)"

Didn't get on to masturbation. That would have been a step too far for me yet.

This is a great thread, ladies! VS, I think you have every reason to be extremely proud of yourself. I'll remember this thread for use in the years to come. Superb stories, laughed so much.