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Recently found out my DH is having an affair with our aupair...devestated!

12 replies

MaamiMoo · 13/08/2008 20:29

I'm a regular, just namechanged. I cannot believe it. I thought it was my mind going crazy but after all the tell tale signs and a neighbour who is also a good friend of mine saw them kissing through the window whilst I was at my part time job one day. I confronted him and he admitted it. I have thrown them both out and I heard she doesn't have anywhere to stay because she is from abroad and doesn't know anyone around here and we're very rural. He has gone to his brothers. I'm trying to be strong for my two DS's age 4 and 7 but i'm crumbling.

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tiredlady · 13/08/2008 20:31

Oh shit. That's awful. You poor thing.

Have you got any friends /family who could come round and be a shoulder?

RUMPEL · 13/08/2008 20:31

xxxx hugs

betterhalf · 13/08/2008 20:32

Same thing happened to my sister some time ago. Hugs to you. I hope you have family/ friends to lean on.

megcleary · 13/08/2008 20:33

well ake care of yerselves and keep up the strong front for the children

Pip51 · 13/08/2008 20:47

This is awful for you. Do try and talk to a friend or family you need support.

ladylush · 13/08/2008 21:23

Same thing happened to my friend and he got her pregnant. Bastard. The au pair was only 17 and from a small town in an Eastern European county. She was stupid but vulnerable. He set out to seduce her. She thought he loved her. So sorry to hear you are going through this

poshtottie · 13/08/2008 21:23

How awful for you, what a bloody shock. Do you think you can work things out? Hopefully she will go home. What a silly man.

mrsleroyjethrogibbs · 13/08/2008 21:24

god i do feel for you. this is horrid.
stay strong

LynetteScavo · 13/08/2008 21:29

How awful.

So where is sthe au pair if she has nowhere to go (you almost sound concerned for her ) Hopefully she'll be on the next plane back home.

Hope you and your DH can work through this.

Kally · 13/08/2008 21:43

Shocked to see so many posters on here with similar stories. Oh boy... it's like a virus. Good you threw them both out and I bet your stupid partner/hubby regrets it. So sorry for you. Maybe it hasn't gone that far? Perhaps its just a kiss/cuddle thing at a moment of weakness? Altho that in itself is horrible as well.

Vian · 13/08/2008 23:17

God that is terrible. Let the little witch be homeless for awhile. It will be a good life lesson for her and hopefully she will never be so stupid ever again.

StealthPolarBear · 14/08/2008 08:32

How are you doing today?

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