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how soon after meeting your DP/H did you know.....?

118 replies

SpandexIsMyEnemy · 04/08/2008 09:10

he was....

a) the one
b) you were living together
c) you were married
) you had kids.

curious, i'll go first, (with xh I mean)

a) don't think I ever did, we jsut sort of plodded.
b) pretty much right away - was working together as well v intense, moved away after 8 months for 6 months then in together properly after that
c) married after 4 years
d) DS after 6 years.

OP posts:

pudding25 · 04/08/2008 15:39

a)The one - after a few dates
b)Living together - 9 months
c)married - we got engaged just over 2 and half years of being together and married 4 years after we got together (I was doing PGCE teacher training so I wanted to finish it before we got married)
d) kids Had our first child 12 wks ago, nearly 8 yrs after we got together

Berrie · 04/08/2008 15:39

a) 12 years
b) 4 years
c)14 years
d)16 years

ChirpyGirl · 04/08/2008 15:44

a) straight away(ish), we were at same school, had same group of friends but somehow never met 'properly' until 6th form, when I needed help with something and everyone said to ask him. Took a few week sto convince him though.
b)5 years, both went through UNi 300 miles apart but still stayed faithful and together
c)After 9 and a half years
d) as above...(I was 3 weeks pregnant the day we got married, found out on our honeymoon!)

mistypeaks · 04/08/2008 15:58

a) the one - Before we even met . We met through work and I used to speak to him on the phone whilst I was covering a colleagues customer base. He got my mobile number off me and we spent hours every night chatting. We then agreed to meet up and on the way there I had a really good feeling and when I saw him in the flesh it was very much a 'wow'. When we had to part company I was gutted.
b) you were living together - within 9 months. We lived 150 miles apart and weekend visits were becoming not enough. The pain when we left each other was awful.
c) you were married - erm after 2 years.
) you had kids. - I was pg within a month of us moving in together. Second daughter was born 13 months after first and 5 months after the wedding!!!

expatinscotland · 04/08/2008 16:00

a) I don't believe there is such a thing as 'the one'.

b) he was my landlord so we were living together immediately.

c) about 6 weeks

d) nearly 13 months after we married.

SpookyMadMummy · 04/08/2008 16:42

a) within a couple of months
b) 3 years of knowing each other, 6 months after starting our relationship
c) 3 1/2 years
d) a further 4 1/2 years before Dd1 was born

MKG · 04/08/2008 16:43

a) immediately (I knew, he didn't)
b) 7 years later
c) 3 months after we moved in together
d) 2 years after getting married.

Califrau · 04/08/2008 16:48

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DumbledoresGirl · 04/08/2008 16:53

a) I knew before I had even spoken to him that I fancied him, then within days (we met on holiday) that I wanted to go out with him and I would say within a month or two that I wanted to marry him. He took a lot longer.

b) we never lived together per se as we worked at other ends of the country. But we spent every weekend together from the moment we got back from holiday and that meant staying overnight with each other.

c) we got married 4 years after meeting.

d) we had children 6 years after meeting.

mosschops30 · 04/08/2008 16:55

a) months after we first met. We hated each other to start with, didnt even speak.
b) after about 3 months
c) after 2 years
d) 3 years later ds came along

LilRedWG · 04/08/2008 16:57

a) A few months
b) We started living together the day we got married
c) Six years.
d) 15 years (blimey - I feel old and I'm only 34).

bohemianbint · 04/08/2008 17:04

a) hmmm...we got off to a lovely start, had a dodgy patch a couple of months in, broke up, then got back together for good. I think it was more of a gradual dawning than a thunderbolt....

b) About 7 months after meeting. (We had 2 months of not being together in that 7 months so depends how you look at it.)

c) 4 and a bit years.

d) Got pregnant almost exactly 2 years after meeting.

sadminster · 04/08/2008 20:04

he was....

a) the one - about 4 hours
b) you were living together - 2 days
c) you were married - 9 months
d) you had kids - dd was born 2 years after we met.

It's our 10th anniversary this week.

DiscoDizzy · 04/08/2008 20:06

A) instantly. This is honestly the truth for both of us
B) 2 months
C) 18 months
D) Planned PG after 4 months

sadminster · 04/08/2008 20:08

We were bith 23, we met on Saturday, he moved in on Monday & we decided to get married on Wednesday & had bought a house together within 6 months. Fabulous, crazy times

lulurose · 04/08/2008 20:12

After our first date to a tapas bar saw my best friend the next day and told her I was going to marry this guy.

Engaged after 3 months, married 3 months after this and DD1 concieved on honeymoon.

Was with someone for 3 years before this, and prior to that 7 years.....

You just know

lollipopz · 04/08/2008 20:20

(a) Almost straight away!
(b) 1 year
(c) 5 years
(d) Fell preg after 3 months! Moved in together after dd was born

Have now been together for 8 years and expecting dc 4! Could not be happier!

DontNeedAnything · 04/08/2008 20:24

a) I dunno....does that mean right away???
b) 3m max
c) not yet
d) 7 years

Elkat · 04/08/2008 20:29

a) Met him and dumped him after 5 months. Got back together two months later, and on the day we got back together, I told him, if we did, it would be for good.

b) Moved in 9 months after getting back together. (We started saving after two months, but I was still at uni - so couldn't move in until after I had graduated!)

c) 4 years

d) 6 years

We have now lived together for 11 years, been together 12 and are very happily married!

unfitmother · 04/08/2008 20:33

a) by 3rd date
b) 5mths
c) 2 yrs
d) 2 years later

georgimama · 04/08/2008 20:35

a) after our first date.
b) six weeks
c) three years
d) six years

VeniVidiVickiQV · 04/08/2008 20:38

he was....

a) the one - when we officially outed as a couple - about a week. But I ummed and aahed about going out with him in the first place to make sure I wasnt on the rebound.
b) you were living together - wanted to within three weeks but he was made redundant. I eventually moved in with him at his parents house (50 yards away from my own parents home!!!) after about just over 2 years, but I'd been staying with him pretty much every weekend right from the start. We bought our own house after 5.5 years together.
c) you were married - after just over twelve years together!!!
) you had kids - after nearly 10 years together

VeniVidiVickiQV · 04/08/2008 20:39

Let me set that out a bit more legibly

he was....

a) the one - when we officially outed as a couple - about a week. But I ummed and aahed about going out with him in the first place to make sure I wasnt on the rebound.

b) you were living together - wanted to within three weeks but he was made redundant. I eventually moved in with him at his parents house (50 yards away from my own parents home!!!) after about just over 2 years, but I'd been staying with him pretty much every weekend right from the start.

We bought our own house after 5.5 years together.

c) you were married - after just over twelve years together!!!

d) you had kids - after nearly 10 years together

ShowOfHands · 04/08/2008 20:40

a) the one- immediately
b) you were living together- 2.5yrs
c) you were married- 6yrs
d) you had kids- 8yrs

lilolilmanchester · 04/08/2008 20:42

a) the one: about 30 minutes
b) you were living together: 10 months
c) you were married: 15 months
d) you had kids: 5 years

Married 20 years this week and knew pretty instantly that he was the one!!!

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