how soon after meeting your DP/H did you know.....?

[SpandexIsMyEnemy]

he was....

a) the one
b) you were living together
c) you were married
) you had kids.

curious, i'll go first, (with xh I mean)

a) don't think I ever did, we jsut sort of plodded.
b) pretty much right away - was working together as well v intense, moved away after 8 months for 6 months then in together properly after that
c) married after 4 years
d) DS after 6 years.

[WelliesAndPyjamas]

corrections:
c) 9 years
d) 8 years
maybe it just feels like more

[MuffinMclay]

a) about 4 months after meeting him, and within a week or so of going out together
b)6 months
c)3 years
d)8 years

[TillyScoutsmum]

a) the one - 8 years . Worked together and were friends but were both married. Marriages failed and things went from there...

b) you were living together - about 3 months after we started "seeing each other"

c) you were married - get married in November. 4 years after starting

d) you had kids. - had dd 2.5 years after getting together

[BarefootShirl]

a) the one - within a couple of hours. I slept with him on first date and would not have done so if I didn't think it was going to be "the real thing"
b) living together - 2 months
c) married - 2 years
d) kids - 2.5 years - we had planned to wait until we were married but things happen!

[thelittlestbadger]

a) the one - immediately

b) you were living together - within a few days (at university) but properly after 18 months

c) you were married - engaged after 20 months, married after 4 years together

d) you had kids - 6 years after being married as it took a while!

[Jackstini]

a) 7 hours
b) 2 years
c) 5.9 yrs
d) 8.7 yrs

[biglips]

a) the one - straight away..it was a strange feeling that ive never had with previous relationships...hes the best!.

b) you were living together - i was literally living with him and his mum from 3 months and then we bought house together after 2.4 yrs together.

c) you were married - got engaged after 3.5yrs together...money is tight so cant afford to get married just yet.

d) you had kids - dd after 3.10 yrs together.

[katylou25]

a) within a month of getting together - had known each other for a couple of years before that
b) pretty much instantly although not officially - he was living about an hours drive away from me - but we never seemed to spend a night apart so might as well have been linving together!
c)6 years after we got together
d) 16 months after wedding

[ib]

a) the one

as I recall 2 months later I went home and told friends he was the one - he says he knew on day 1

b) you were living together

We met in fresher's week, he spent most of the first year living in my room, we got a room together the second year

c) you were married

Year and a half after we met

) you had kids.

15 years after we met

[NatalieJaneIsPregnantAgain]

a) straight away
b) he moved from Bolton down to Bedford when we'd been seeing each other for 6 weeks.
c) we got engaged 6 weeks after he moved down south, got maried 6 weeks after that.
d) DS1 was born when we'd been together nearly 2 years.

I was 17 when we got married. Been together 8 years this month, have had DS2 and we're expecting our third in January, wouldn't change any of it for the world.

[WaynettaSlob]

a) the one - straight away..

b) you were living together - 3.25 years

c) you were married - 3.5 years

d) you had kids - 6 years

[quinne]

a) the one - first kiss though v. special person, maybe the one after 2 months
b) you were living together- 1 1/2 years
c) you were married - 3 years
d) you had kids. - 5 years

[pinata]

a) immediately
b) 2 years
c) 9 years
d) nearly 12 years

looks like we're quite slow about all these things

[schneebly]

a) 10 hours (how long our 1st date lasted)
b) 11 months
c) 2 years
d) 18 months

He asked me to go wih him to visit his brother abroad on our first date and it was on that trip 4.5 months after we that we got engaged. We have been together 6.5 years and married for 4.5 now.

[veedub]

spandex... We were both 25 and went and booked the first date at the registry office we could get after a couple of weeks!!

I introduced him to my mum on the day of the wedding! Luckily everyone loved him and eight years and 2 kids later its just getting better and better. I definately believe in love at first sight, the very first time I looked at him I got shivers and thought ' we would be great together'.

[preggersplayspop]

a) Knew he was 'the one' - immediately (he says it was the same for him)
b) Moved in - 12 years later!! (its a long story, very complicated, but we were both only really in a position to commit properly 12 years later.
c) Married - 14 years later - I never really wanted to get married to anyone, but made an exception for him (after a bit of persuasion). Love being married now though!
d) DS born 15 years later - didn't waste any time once we finally got married.

Wish I had started earlier though, I asked him last night how many children he would have wanted if we had started earlier and he said 4, and I feel the same. Ah well.

[hughjarssss]

a) after our second date.
b) 7 years
c) still not! but will be by the end of the year so 9 years
d) 8 years.

We would have moved a lot quicker if it were down to him but I was a commitment phobe!

[Iklboo]

We were friends before we started going out (he had evil girlfriend and was only 22 at the time, I was 30). We started 'dating' May 2001.
Bizarrely I knew I was in love with him on 9/11 at about 9am our time when I was sat in the back of my parents car on holiday in Norfolk, miserable as hell and realised I was missing him.
b) moved in March 2002
c) married October 2004
d) had DS Nov 2005

We moves fast when we wants to

[branflake81]

Wow some of you got married very quickly!

Just out of interest (and this is a genuine question btw not a dig) but why?

If you knew you were going to be together forever, why did you feel the need to have a wedding so quickly?

[NatalieJaneIsPregnantAgain]

Bran, my sister had just had the biggest most over-rated wedding ever (think Victoria Beckham, and then double it), neither of us wanted a big 'do', we wanted to get married for us, not to give everyone else a reason to get pissed. We eloped, didn't seem any point in waiting once he'd asked me.

[SpandexIsMyEnemy]

this is what I was wondering branflakes tbh - why some folks do it so quickly, and others wait - I waited with XH - (partly was young, but on the other hand partly wasn't sure i guess)

would I wait again - tbh i'm not sure I think i'd get stuck in there.

[HarleyQuinn]

a)After first meeting him at 17

b) Moved in together Feb 2004

c) Got married 5 months ago

d) Had DD after a year together

quite rush but I wouldnt change that now or him

[bevjotom]

a,first time i met him 1979 (lost touch met again in 2002!!)
b,after 4 months 2002
c,got married sept 2005
d,first ds jan 2005 2nd ds mar 2007

[ChairmumMiaow]

a)had a good feeling straight away, but I guess really about 6 months
b)straight away. couldn't get rid of him after we got together ;-) (he moved into my room at uni)
c)nearly 3 years
d)9.5 years