Oh dear... I could have written that list a few years ago.
It is understandable to feel like that if you are in a new place, lonely and without the support of your husband.
The only thing I can say is that it is in your hands to change the situation, you only need to decide what is it that you really want (it took me ten years but... hope it may help someone else...).
If you want to be more relaxed in terms of money, you can talk to your partner about hjow you feel about it, when I got married (and uprooted to this country) I felt very much as you describe, it helped to have a fixed amount of money form then DH salary to spend on my own without asking anybody, I was not looking for luxuries of anything, just wanted to have the privacy to buy underwear without having to ask him for that, or to save to get other things I liked even if those where just to help me cope with the loneliness I was experiencing.
I supose your DD is tiny if she is still using vests, so perhaps not the best of ideas to go back to work now but, if you are used to a job full of activity, spending some time in that environment will certainly help you to meet more people, make friends, or at least have a bit of adult conversation.
Regarding the family abroad... a thing I have always encounter in my group of expats is how we tend to idealise our families back at home. But then spend sometime overthere a year and come back happy of having such families... and the geographical distance in the middle.
Regarding making new friends, go out for a walk, smile, talk to people, even if you are only talking to the butcher about the food you are buying you will feel better and soon you will start being part of the community.
And finally, don´t forget that is in the nature of the immigrant to feel a bit like you are feeling. Everytime someone asks about my accent and we identify each other as expats, I ask how they are coping, normally the answer involves missing something which give us a good point of conversation and eventually to a friendship. Other people may be feeling as lonely as you feel and waiting for someone to "open the door" at least a bit to be able to form new friendships.
Hope this may help a bit, but even if it doesn´t... here we are