Another man wont leave me alone.....

[unhappyandnotloved]

Hi.

It started off as abit of flirting, at the swimming pool I go to, he is a lifeguard. Made me feel wanted and good about myself. Not really loved or apreciated at home.

I feel abit uncomfortable around him when he keeps flirting with me and he texts me sometimes. He is a lovely guy though. I guess I dont make it better because I like the attention.

How am I goin to stop this?

Stop going to the pool?

How has he got your number?
Why does he make you feel uncomfortable?

change your phone number

don't go swimming for a few weeks

don't respond to him

work on your relationship with your DH/DP if you want to make a go of it

Ignore his texts and swim somewhere else for a while, he will get the hint. And may well be flirting/txting with dozens of women anyway. DOn't worry about it too much, a few text are not Adultery.

i do want to make a go of it. I love DP! To have attention from someone else though is quite flattering. Its just abit embarrasing as he flirts in front of other people and I KNOW he flirts with loads of other people too . Im abit of a sucker though because im lonely. He has my number because he did some personal training with me a while ago.

"I guess I dont make it better because I like the attention".

You said it yourself. Easy enough to make it stop, but I think you don't want to really.

Sorry but you don't really want it to stop. You have set yourself up for it, and are lapping up the attention. If you are serious about this, change your number, go to another swimming pool and work on your relationship with dh.

what CoV said.

I do want it to stop now. I have decided enough is enough and I dont want this anymore and I know it's wrong. It's embarrasing and i love my DP.

Thanks everyone, you have ade me realise how wrong it is.

Have you actually asked him to leave you alone? If not, try ignoring him and swimming else where.

bet he loves himself the most.

Unless he's a psychopathic stalker it will be easy enough to get the message across.

Don't worry about being nice/polite. If you really want it to stop tell him and then ignore him.