Do you think MN needs an Abuse section?

[bearmama]

Or should it all stay in relationships?
There seems to be a lot of MNers with controlling/abusive partners, and those seeking advice on whether their partner is acting abusively.
What do you think?

No. Often people just need to talk about their relationships and aren't ready to face or aren't aware of the abusive elements of that relationship.

I think it would take too much for some to take the step to post in a section called abuse or dv or whatever.

Nope.

because people seeking advice are never being abused, and for 100 posters telling them they are, they will have 100 reasons why they aren't.

nope.
too intimidating as said above.
And also lot less likely to get spontaneous replies.

no, for all the reasons already mentioned.

Good points. Question answered. Thank you. I asked because when I was going through DV years ago I was directed to a website and there was an abuse section. However I had begun to accept at that point it was DV - agree that people may not be willing to.

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Good point about useful numbers rubyrioja

There is a web guide page. There could be more obvious links to dv helpines in there perhaps.

(See link at top of mental health topics)

a google of "domestic violence helpline" brings Women's Aid second; that's not too tricky but you have to do it in teh first place; if you don't accept it's DV, I doubt you'd google it.

Most of those threads have people linking and writing the phone contact number anyway so may not be totally necessary?

hey guys, just saw this and wanted to say hello and i agree with what you have all said

No - who would go there? Seriously, think about it.

Finallydoneit - so pleased to see your name - have been worried about you! Text the other week, but didn't get a reply, so wasn't sure whether it was safe to text again. How are you?

hey . i am ok, have changed my number, can you get on msn?
its ok here but it gets very hard living with so many people at times. ds is ok and i suppose its not gonna be for ever

no it wasn't until after I was outside of the situation, I truly realised and had it thrusted upon me (by my parents) what was/had actually happened, and it wasn't normal, and it wasn't ok, and I did have a choice etc.

so for that reason a list of places to go etc will be helpful.

until someone's ready to accept and face up to it they won't believe it's DV/an abusive relationship.