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GF cancels coming over yesterday so id fight for her, next day is mad that im 15 mins late to waking up

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Quinncc · 08/11/2026 12:44

The title basically explains it, yesterday I was ready, everything sorted and was just waiting on her to get ready and come over, she cancels for 0 reason and later on explains she wanted me to fight and beg for her to come over.

Leads to today, I wake up a bit later than she wants (7:15 am ) and i say good morning and I don't get a response for 4 hours and shes mad that i didn't apologise for not being up on time.

I know im in the wrong for not being awake on time but I was perfectly on time yesterday and was excited to see her.

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DPotter · 08/11/2026 18:03

Even at 17 - life is too short for this type of manipulative and controlling behavior. And make no mistake - requiring someone to get up by 7am on a Sunday morning is definitely controlling behavior. Wanting you to 'fight for her' - oh no not good.

Please for the sake of your own well being, let this young woman go.

mtobrokeme · 08/11/2026 18:27

My son is 15. If at 17, or in fact 21, 30 or even 50 he gets himself into a relationship like yours I’ll buy him a pair of running shoes and tell him to sprint away from them as fast as his legs can carry him.

ilovepixie · 08/11/2026 18:45

She’s not right for you. You don’t play games in a relationship. Dump her and move on.

Starlia · 08/11/2026 18:47

You are in an abusive relationship. You need to break up with her and learn about what healthy boundaries and relationships are.

EvieBB · 08/11/2026 22:19

Quinncc · 08/11/2026 12:48

She likes things specific and being up at 7 is a requirement if she wants to come over

She's toxic and controlling and extremely immature. Get rid. You don't need that kind of sh*t in your life

brownbootsandhats · 08/11/2026 22:45

You will find better - nicer & kinder

AshCullen1894 · 08/11/2026 22:53

This is not what a healthy relationship looks like.

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