GF cancels coming over yesterday so id fight for her, next day is mad that im 15 mins late to waking up

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The title basically explains it, yesterday I was ready, everything sorted and was just waiting on her to get ready and come over, she cancels for 0 reason and later on explains she wanted me to fight and beg for her to come over.

Leads to today, I wake up a bit later than she wants (7:15 am ) and i say good morning and I don't get a response for 4 hours and shes mad that i didn't apologise for not being up on time.

I know im in the wrong for not being awake on time but I was perfectly on time yesterday and was excited to see her.

This kind of controlling behaviour comes from someone being in a really bad place mentally. I'm guessing you care for her, right?

Splitting up with her is absolutely the kindest thing you can do if you want her to have a good life. Right now you're an enabler.

With some time and therapy, she can maybe learn not to treat others around her like dirt. The longer you stay, the more entrenched it becomes. And make no mistake, once a person gets into their 20s the less people are willing to make allowances for this kind of behaviour. She needs to learn that it isn't ok.

Tell her to get herself to therapy and block her. Honestly, you don't deserve this and you are not helping her by pandering to it.

This is strange, abusive behaviour. This is not normal. End this.

She is controlling and abusive, dump her. There will be someone better in the future.

Oh, this also sounds so teenage

There’s a difference between liking things specific and being controlling.

Autistic? You do not sound like a good fit.

Well they are teenagers...

That’s abusive, give her the boot. She is behaving like a toddler or an abuser - either mean she isn’t capable of holding down a relationship.

Ok (if this is real) then it’s great you’re only 17 and can hopefully begin to identity abusive and controlling behaviours before you’re stuck in an adult relationship with kids and a mortgage.

What sort of relationships have you had modelled to you while growing up?

Hopefully the very smart and experienced women, many of whom will be Mums of teens telling you how wrong this is will get you to think things through.

You are both very young. Your relationship isn't healthy she is too controlling. Don't waste time or ruin your life by staying in this relationship.

Updating because I see you are both kids still, so yeah maybe not abusive but very childish and she needs to grow up and stop trying to be controlling.

Tell her to fuck off.

Run for the hills, this is not a healthy relationship.

ar 17 you should be put having fun with friends and not being dictated to.

I’d have dumped her her behaviour yesterday alone. Cancelling last minute plans then expecting you to beg to see her and getting annoyed when you don’t.

id have blocked her and enjoyed a big relaxing long lie in complete peace this morning

I’d actually argue it’s still abusive. Th enact she’s 17 doesn’t mean she gets a free pass

Bloody hell! If my son told me his girlfriend was being this demanding I’d steer him to ditching her immediately. She’s controlling and abusive and if you pander to her now, the behaviour will only get worse as time goes on.

A healthy relationship is based on mutual respect and love, not having to prove you’re worthy every 5 minutes.

(Dogs beg, cats don’t and you’re obviously not a dog. Be more cat like and aloof.)

As someone with teenage kids i would definitely say she is to immature to be in a relationship. Also very controlling. And manipulative. Possible mental health problems. Or just very spoilt.
Far to much drama for such young ages.
Also 7am on a sunday is mental .

You are not in the wrong! This is controlling and some would say abusive. Find someone better. Assuming you're not a general in the army, no one should be asking you to fight for them. And if you did fight and argue, no doubt this charmer would call you abusive and pushy.
Do you have decent friends/family to discuss this sort of thing with? Mumsnet did (probably) exist, or nearly did, when I was young (guessing and might be wrong that you're early 20s?) but I'd never have thought to use it, so it just concerns me if you've no one to ask. Maybe join some groups in your area so you can get friends to talk to to offer support-please do not get isolated in a relationship with a controlling person.

Are your parents not annoyed at having your guest roam the house early in the morning?

Doesn’t sound like your sleepovers are working.

Your girlfriend is terribly immature and it sounds like she thinks relationships on Tik Tok are how the real world works. Help her to understand the real world by dumping her uptight ass today and find a real human being to spend your time with.

Another completely genuine post.

If this is true, you need to reconsider the relationship. Very controlling and not healthy.

She’s being pathetic, even for 17.

Dump her.

No you are right, it doesn’t, but I think that there probably is a lack of maturity causing it rather than it being intentionally abusive. This is someone who may not actually end up being as bad as she currently sounds…or she could end up being a total nightmare. Jury is still out, either way she is waaaaaaaaay too much hard work to be bothering with.

This relationship is not good. Consider ending it asap.