GF cancels coming over yesterday so id fight for her, next day is mad that im 15 mins late to waking up

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The title basically explains it, yesterday I was ready, everything sorted and was just waiting on her to get ready and come over, she cancels for 0 reason and later on explains she wanted me to fight and beg for her to come over.

Leads to today, I wake up a bit later than she wants (7:15 am ) and i say good morning and I don't get a response for 4 hours and shes mad that i didn't apologise for not being up on time.

I know im in the wrong for not being awake on time but I was perfectly on time yesterday and was excited to see her.

I'm guessing lesbian and neuro-divergent?

I completely agree!!

We are sometimes taught about extreme behaviours like physical violence but often not the small abusive behaviours that are so easy to overlook and then often result in the bigger behaviours but by then it’s too late.

This is not how a good, healthy relationship should be.

Just incase you don't know

• There should be no begging or fighting to see your partner
• Unless going/doing something specific you do not need a set inflexible schedule for your day that you are in trouble if you deviate from.

• You should look forward to being with your partner
• You can relax in their company
• You both care equally about each other
• You can speak and act freely without fear
• There can be disagreements that you mutually reslove but neither of you engineers arguing or dragging out conflict

Move on from this toxic relationship and aim higher and happier.

She’s a crackpot. Ditch her.

This is not a healthy relationship, please dump her! Playing silly games, demanding you wake up at a particular time, these are not things that you have to put up with. Better she learns this sooner rather than later too. You will find someone much nicer to be with.

For heaven’s sake, OP. I get that you’re only in your teens, but surely this isn’t how you imagine relationships are supposed to work.

Just ditch her and stay single for a bit until you grasp that this isn’t normal.

Doesn't seem this is making either of you happy. Relationships should make you happy. Tell her it's over and mean it.

She’s emotionally abusive and controlling and you need to dump her. Healthy relationships don’t look like this. She’s vile.

This is ridiculously immature, controlling and unhealthy. I wouldn’t waste any more time staying in this “relationship”.

Run young man and find a fun girlfriend. Do not get caught up in these silly games. My son went out with a crazy like this for nearly a year, put up with it as she was threatening to kill herself if he ended it. It had an awful impact on him. Speak with your parents also, one of my sons biggest regrets was not confiding in us all sooner as we helped him through it. Now make sure and come back and tell all us mummies that it is over!

At 17 I was coming in at 7am! Get rid OP this isn't right or normal. It's very controlling.

You're far too young for this crap, go out with your mates and enjoy yourself

Are you both still living with your parents? Is she waking the whole house up turning up again 7 on a Sunday?

I thought she was being controlling and abusive until I read that you are both 17. I now think it’s immature and unkind. Either way, this is not how you treat someone you care about. Don’t waste your time and care on someone who plays these sorts of silly games. It will damage your self-esteem which is the last thing anyone needs at 17. You’re not her therapist, her comfort blanket or her punch bag and she is not your responsibility. You deserve better. And don’t let her manipulate you into thinking otherwise. Be brave. Break it off

You're too young for this drama, end it and move on. She's got some serious issues to work out.

She’s playing games with you. Relationships should never be about drama or games.
They should be easy, fun and life enhancing. They should be like a radiator adding warmth, not like a drain taking away from you.
Especially at 17.

Please just dump her. There is no worthwhile relationship without respect and trust. She’s not giving you that at all.

If you were my son I’d be telling you to dump this immature and controlling girl then to go back to sleep.

Im going to guess that your self esteem isn’t good to accept this awful controlling behaviour. IME it gets worse the longer you stay because she will be constantly testing you and you will be even more scared to fail her tests.

Likes things a particular way is code for controlling.l when she expects others to obey her ways. She’s a whole red flag parade and shouldn’t be dating.

"Fight and beg". Fucking hell.

Send her to Dumpsville, she sounds awful.

You are in a controlling relationship. She does not love you. Or own you. Do yourself a favour and end this non relationship.

Move on, lifes too short.

This is not a healthy relationship. Learn from this experience to stand up for yourself. No one should be manipulating you as a condition of their company.

Your level of compromise right now should be I picked tonight’s movie so you pick the next one.

She is being controlling and abusive. Her being 17 isn't an excuse.y primary school age children wouldn't treat their friends like this.

Run and never go back. She'll only get worse.
I also suspect there are a lot of other 'requirements' which you haven't told us about.

Your GF is childish and controlling. At 17 you don’t want to get caught up in this sort of relationship. Relationships should be fun.

I knew girls like her growing up. They don’t really like to be happy. They’re spiteful and their happiness comes from getting a little kick out of causing drama and upset and arguments. She’s constantly looking for an excuse to get angry at you. If you stuck to every one of her rules right now, she’d make up more so she could cause more arguments. Actually that’s exactly what she did last night, told you she wasn’t coming and then made up a secret rule in her head that you were supposed to beg for her to come round. Your life will be one big misery until you finally break up with her

I don’t want to appear patronising so I’m sorry if I do, but when I was your age I put up with a LOT of shit because I didn’t know what a normal relationship was supposed to look like.

Your gf needs to grow up and stop throwing manipulative tantrums. You don’t need to wake up at 7 just to say good morning to her. It’s the weekend! You also shouldn’t have to tolerate her punishing silences, that is abuse.

She sounds like a crank. Dump her and find someone who treats you properly. And know in future that if something feels wrong, then it is wrong. You can’t make her change, but you don’t have to put up with it either.