Signs your husband hates you

[Tinkerbell98]

How can someone tell if their husband hates them? Are there certain behaviours or signs that show they don’t love you anymore? Thanks

I think most men are fundamentally lazy fuckers. A lot of this comes down to laziness as much as anything.

They want a skivvy to do the housework and cooking and provide sex as well.

Calling me names, being really really nasty, hating on my family, saying I was a bad parent, and I never made this extremely high standards he set for me. Gaslighting, DARVO, blatant manipulation to get his own way. Making me feel so shit about myself and thinking I was worth nothing, because he had such poor self-esteem he had to find some power from somewhere.

I’m on my own now. Much less stress. Much happier. I have nothing to fear when I get home. I have peace.

Ah! yes, I see! Very good😃

I suspect you already know, hence your post. If you feel like that, that is all the evidence you need that he doesn't deserve to have you as a partner.

Yes I totally agree. I always ask him & tell him how I feel he hates me but he denies it & says he loves me. I’ve even suggested divorcing but he says he loves me acts nicely for a week or so & then the signs of hate creep back in. Very tiring & confusing

WTAF!

Are you going to stay in that relationship? It doesn’t sound a very healthy for either of you.

My granny always said there’s a thin line between love & hate. She was a wise lady!

I agree with ExperiencedTeacher
that indifference plays a big part, although with dh it was as much that he was depressed. Also things he used to laugh at that I’d do then he’d say nothing, as if he no longer found it funny or endearing (he possibly found it irritating)

Jadeprincess

Im so sorry, that was horrific

I have to add I work in a supermarket and when I serve a 40s-60s couple and they’re chatting and laughing/ holding hands, touching off each other and eg one of them says the other one does x or y endearingly, I assume they must be newly together/ remarried etc, which I find very sad

So don’t ask him for a divorce. Divorce him.

Most of this has made me cry, because my husband hates me and it is hard seeing it written down, because so much of what is written is what he does.

But this did make me laugh.

When I cuddled up to my exH on our wedding night and he said "Do I have to?" I realised he didn't like me!

Is this the abusive man you divorced or you got married again in the last few months ?

All these things, I'm not sure if you are listing or have experienced it, but it is basically my life.

Never commenting if I do anything good- if I spring clean and wash the walls shampoo the carpet he never mentions it- I asked once why and he said because it should always be like that so it doesn't warrant a comment.
Never cleans but comments on mess.
Expects me to know what he wants (food etc) and sulks if I don't have it in, despite me offering to get it for him.
Makes me feel like all of my interests are pointless/obsessive, I'm not allowed to talk about anything that brings me joy, he just shuts me down if I do.
Never supports me if I try and look after myself, just tells me there is no point. When I used some make up he said it was like putting parsley on a turd
Makes me look small/stupid in front of others but hits the roof if I ever accidentally do the same. Especially likes to do this in front of our children's partners.
If I ever say anything about it he just turns it back on me and makes it look like I'm am being unreasonable - your mum says she's Fine, but implying that I'm unreasonable to be upset.
Silent treatment when he feels like it.
Always ruins my birthday/any plans.
Thinks it is me that is lucky to have him.

Hate is the only explanation.

Surely above love there is liking someone/indifference? Hate is a huge leap from love. I left my ex but I never hated him- and still don’t. I just didn’t love him any more.

When he sees you in a crowd and doesn’t smile as hes walking over to you

That must be exhausting for you.

Wishing you a happy future filled with good things!

Doesn’t take you to any hospital appointments while you’re having a miscarriage, so you have to get the bus to all 7, and back again.

Refuses to pick you up from the airport after a 5 day break which was the first girls holiday you’d had in 6 years together.

Doesn’t kiss or cuddle you just wants to get to “the main event”.

I left him over 5 years ago now, and still feel liberated.

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Oh, that it really sad. I feel the passion has diminished in our relationship but in this scenario we would definitely have big grins to be walking over to each other in a crowd.

These are all so sad so sorry to hear them. Has anyone ever brought up how they feel to their husbands and if so how did they respond?

Some people do not know how to love or treat other properly- they may not even treat themselves properly. There is nothing you can do. They can’t change.

one of my closest friends had to leave her husband as he was so awful to her. But he wanted to stay with her and loved her but he didn’t know how to behave properly. He remains upset about it 10 years later. He neglects himself and his children. He had an awful upbringing. I know him quite well and he is genuinely confused by it all as his idea of what is normal is not what anyone else’s is. I feel sorry for him- while keeping my distance - and hating him all at the same time.

what I am saying in a round about way is it often isn’t personal - they are just not fully operational humans with the ability to treat others with respect at all times .