So this isn’t anything new really and has been like this for years but it is slowly grinding me down to question whether he’s ever really wanted me. Before meeting, my husband had been single for about 7 years and basically had given up on ever finding someone until I came along.
Fast forward 11 years and I have constantly had issues with him not wanting to have sex. He comes up with excuses to not even after, during the day, saying that he would be game that night. Then when it gets to the evening he doesn’t want to anymore. He rarely comes to bed with me or makes it up before midnight and opts to watch something on tv or go on his PlayStation than spend time with me.
Before anyone suggests trying things like doing it on the sofa or whatever, he won’t. I’ve tried and he won’t do that. He also won’t have sex if either of us is even a slight bit tipsy. I could and have walked past the tv naked to get his attention and have been told to get out of the way. He has no interest in sex in the morning, daytime or evening.
If I dare mention that he doesn’t love me, find me attractive or a turn on I am called stupid but I feel I have every right to question it when he shows no interest in me . . . Ever.
It happened again today. I said a dirty joke in response to something he had said. He responds by saying he’d be game later once our son was in bed. Son in bed, all chores done, nothing in our way, I try to connect with him and he wasn’t interested anymore.
What am I meant to do?