Ok so this is a bit of an anecdote inspired by the other 'ghosting' threads. Just for entertainment really. I've (more or less) moved on but would like some perspective on what probably really happened! It's fairly long just bear with me...
So one day I just really wanted a casual night out. Went on hinge and matched with a guy 10 years my junior (I'm 33). He quickly suggested taking it to whatsapp. He texted with xx's and was quite friendly. We set up a date (in a cocktail bar), and whilst the texting wasn't sexual, it was pretty clear we were going for an ONS. He was coming to my city for a conference only, and would otherwise be about 2 hours away.
About 2 hours before the date, he suggested if I wanted to meet in his hotel lobby instead 'if it's going to be casual'. I said no, I would like to meet in the bar. So we still met in the bar. We chatted for 2-3 hours and had a couple of drinks and went back to his hotel.
Well, we ended up not having sex cuz neither of us had any condoms. Just made out. I left his hotel, then we both texted something like 'what a shame' 'when we're next near each other's city we should meet up'.
About a couple of weeks after, I was planning on going to his city so I asked him out for a Friday night meet up. I said food/drinks. He replied quickly and said he'd look for a place. He picked a nice cocktail bar.
I walked into the date (this time bringing condoms!!) thinking we'll definitely do it. We ended up talking for 3 hours (7-10pm)... and quite a good conversation too. We talked about life values, our perspective on marriage/love (we don't believe in it), travel stories, some UK politics, etc. He drove most of the topics forward and I was thinking... will we ever get to do it lol. Also after our meal there was a natural window to leave but he started ordering a cocktail. So we talked and drank some more.
Then his brother called. Apparently he got stranded with his car in the middle of nowhere. Something about the tire suspension. He showed me the calling screen while the brother rang. He started doing the maths aloud... getting to his brother would be 20 minutes, sorting out the car another 30, then coming back to my hotel would be 20, etc. He looked genuinely torn but I told him he gotta go help his brother.
So he drove me back to the hotel and he said, well, I might call you later if the situation got sorted early. I said, Well, I'm still here tomorrow if you're free.
It was near midnight and I was getting sleepy so I texted him, thanking him for dinner, and I'm going to sleep but I'm around tomorrow.
Next day, Saturday, he didn't reply until 2pm. He said, he ended up going home after midnight. He didn't take up the thread on me still being in his city.
Well, obviously we didn't see each other again. Then about a week after that, I asked him if he wanted to meet up as I'm going to his city. He just never replied.
I thought it's odd that he didn't take up the opportunity to meet up the next day, when sex was clearly on the table (as it's kinda an unfinished business from the night before). Or the next time when I invited him and I was gonna go to his city. I don't think I give off 'wanting serious relationship vibe' as we never texted in between!!
Anyway, apart from 'he's just not that into you'... what do you think is going on??
I already blocked him but it's still a mystery...