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New Partner Reluctant to have sex

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MummysLittleSunbeam · 11/10/2026 18:14

I have been seeing a new partner for over a month. We see each other a couple of nights a week and have spent the last 2 weekends together. We message several times a day and we get on so well. I really fancy him but, the lack of sex could be an issue. We have spent the last 2 Saturday nights together but, not had sex. He has said that he is attracted to me but, he is really nervous and has said that it has been a long time since he spent the night with someone. There is a lot of passionate kissing and touching. However, he doesn’t get remotely hard. I do try and reassure him and am happy to wait.. for a bit. At this rate, we will end up in the friend zone, which will be a real shame. I don’t really know what to do or how long to wait. He said that his last relationship lasted a couple of months and then fizzled out. I can see how this could happen… but, in all other ways, it is a great relationship…

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dh280125 · 14/10/2026 11:58

gamerchick · 14/10/2026 11:47

Viagra doesn't work for all men. Can give intense headaches though.

Maybe not, but if seems like a sensible starting point. Even if all it does is give him a placebo confidence.

CloveRinse · 16/10/2026 18:51

Nylonflares · 12/10/2026 09:58

I couldn’t be arsed with this and it will only get worse.

But sex is important to me and really the only reason I’d date someone now 😂

I think I agree with this. My life is full / busy already. The sex is kind of critical to me. If it is not there I am not entirely sure I would bother.

itsnotalwaysthateasy · 18/10/2026 00:49

Maybe he has a very tiny penis.

DemonsandMosquitoes · 18/10/2026 07:01

At his age he needs his BP, cholesterol and blood sugar checking as a first step.

MummysLittleSunbeam · 18/10/2026 23:16

@itsnotalwaysthateasy .. to be fair, you are right.. !!

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remembranceofthingspast · 19/10/2026 09:04

MummysLittleSunbeam · 18/10/2026 23:16

@itsnotalwaysthateasy .. to be fair, you are right.. !!

oh dear! In the bin he goes.

tanoshi · 19/10/2026 15:07

remembranceofthingspast · 19/10/2026 09:04

oh dear! In the bin he goes.

I wonder what genital/body defects a woman must have for her to be binned??

MummysLittleSunbeam · 19/10/2026 18:44

I did try giving him a blow job. He didn’t get very hard and came straight away. He is such a lovely bloke, it is such a shame.

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remembranceofthingspast · 21/10/2026 14:34

tanoshi · 19/10/2026 15:07

I wonder what genital/body defects a woman must have for her to be binned??

it's not just an aesthetic thing. A micro/small (not to mention the added impotence) penis would effect my enjoyment of the sex so it wouldn't be as good as a relationship with a well endowed man. There's not only one man on this earth, so we can try and find what we want.

remembranceofthingspast · 21/10/2026 20:52

MummysLittleSunbeam · 19/10/2026 18:44

I did try giving him a blow job. He didn’t get very hard and came straight away. He is such a lovely bloke, it is such a shame.

the worst lover I had experienced both impotence and premature ejaculation regularly. Sounds like he might be one of those.

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