Caught my bf masturbating over pictures of his ex

[BloomingPeachyRose]

Like the title says, no need to say much more really.

The writing was probably on the wall given what was happening and now it definitely is but he says I'm judging him too harshly and not giving him a chance.

I decided to surprise him at the weekend. I was supposed to be covering somebody's shift at work but didn't need to in the end, so thought great, Saturday night, will turn up with a nice bottle of wine and nice lingerie on etc. etc. We've been seeing each other for around 6 months or so, he's always said I can pop in whenever I like, door usually open etc. In fact he sometimes forgets to lock the front door and I do nag him about it as he lives alone.

So I got to his house and headed upstairs as no sign of him. Walked in and he had his phone in one hand and his penis in the other. He was so embarrassed but seemed pleased to see me. He put his phone face down and pushed it underneath the duvet. I wanted to know what turned him on as he has been having problems getting an erection with me from the start but I have been patient as I really like him. He refused to show me his phone and said it was just some spanking porn or something. I watch some porn myself and I suggested we watch it together, started undressing as I had my new lingerie on and he jumped out of bed and suggested we have some wine.

We had some wine, he fell asleep and yes I looked at his phone. He was on his ex girlfriend's Facebook. One picture after another. I looked at his history and he has been doing it since before we got together and all the time we HAVE been together.

I brought it up the next day and he didn't seem bothered that I had looked, he said he had nothing to hide and that it means nothing.

I ended it yesterday as I can't get past it. He struggles to get a decent erection for me but he's masturbating over a woman who dumped him over 8 years ago? Is this normal male behaviour? She seems to be his images of choice when he's alone. Not porn. I'd be OK with that. Well not OK if it's replacing our sex life. But it's HER!!

I'm fuming and he says I'm being way too sensitive and he wants to be with me, not her.

Ex problems seem to be a recurring theme on here, but I never for one minute thought he'd still be hung up on someone from an eternity ago.

He wants to talk again. I don't. Am I being unfair? I don't think so at all. I think he'd be back with her in a flash if she turned up now.

I've just been testing it again. I did searches for her on Google as well and every time I click on one of her photos, it shows up exactly as it does in his history.

Its well and truly over. I cannot imagine ever doing this over an ex. The man has serious mental health issues.

Yes to all this. Getting into the minutiae of her and her boyfriend's personalities is not necessary. Simply because he can't get over her and wanks off to her presumably non sexual pictures, and cannot get hard with OP?! She shouldn't waste her energy on any of them.

In reality I leave my door unlocked and my ex would walk in without knocking, and vice versa.

I bet the Neighbourhood Watch just love you !

He's a literal wanker.

I didn’t need to read the whole thing to ask if he’s now your ex? If not, why not?

I think she says in her original post that she ended it?

Ruuuuuuuun

Fake

Why do you think it's AI?

Not fake. This site is becoming a cruel place.

Maybe I should reply with "troll"?

Back under the bridge!

So he even quotes her disparaging remarks about him to you?
Get rid!

Oh horrible OP. Yes, I think all you can do is leave him. Even if he wasn’t doing this, you aren’t getting what you want from this relationship. Now you’re never going to trust him and feel desired and cherished, are you?

I had to leave for my own sanity and self-respect.

Really horrible experience. But I do feel positive about meeting someone who wants me.

Yes, very self-effacing in a way. Crazy...