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MIL and how I hate her

214 replies

MrSSnoop · 26/06/2008 13:52

When MIL found out I was pregnant the first thing she asked was "what names do you have?". I told her we were not thinking about names until the baby was actually born and then we were looking to look at him or her and decide what suits.

MIL then said she'd always liked the name "Lucy" for a girl and "Liam" for a boy. I said that's nice but not names I would choose. She then went in a strop and said I was being rude about her names and she bets my names are crap.

DH took her side and said I was being rude but agreed that he didn't like her names either.

Anyway DD was born on the 14th and MIL instantly asked what we had called her. When we told her she was all up in arms saying it was a disgusting name for a child and if we went ahead and registered her as that MIL would continue to call her Lucy and tell everyone else that her name was Lucy too.

What annoys me even more is that DH is now starting to take her side and saying maybe we should change her name incase she gets picked on for it (although not to Lucy).

To add insult to injury my own mum has now admitted that she hates the name and my sister apparantly thought it was a joke.

Would you dig your heels in or compromise on the name? Everyone I've spoken to either pulls a face or outright admits that they don't like it. It makes me cross because even if I didn't like a name, I wouldn't say it to the parents.

OP posts:
Logan2014 · 28/04/2019 18:21

You call your baby what ever you want Hun it's up to you sod wat everyone else says I've 3 boys with names my mother didn't like especially the baby she hates his name wouldn't even call him by his name just refered to him as baby my boys are
Logan
Roman
Odinn
You do what you want an your husband should grow a backbone an stick up for you if he wants that name to an stop being an mummy's boy trying to please everyone

Mummabear12345567889 · 28/04/2019 18:30

Unless you gave birth to a snake. Dont call her slithery.

onegiftedgal · 28/04/2019 18:38

Your MIL is a typical MIL bitch and is way out of order because it has NOTHING to do with her, but surely slithery is a joke right?

FyEnwiYwLucy · 28/04/2019 18:46

People can’t think this is real, surely ???😂

BBOA · 28/04/2019 18:47

Please reconsider the name!!!!But it was a joke right??!!! Lifetime of pain for DD 😭

LouH1981 · 28/04/2019 19:06

If I’d used that logic, my DS would have been Angry - because he was basically pretty pi**ed off at being swiped from my stomach in to a cold operating theatre. We went for Alfie instead...

FelicisNox · 28/04/2019 19:24

@Tortington: God I love you right now.

OP... I'm going with this advice: sharpen your claws and tell everyone to fuck off.

MIL can't call her anything if she never sees herSmile

She's trying to bully you so bite back and make it clear that if she takes that attitude she won't see her to call her anything.

You do need to think on the name though (whatever it is) because if DH is siding with mother it's possible he hates it too.

Did you pick the name together or did you choose it and dictate to OH?

sunshine11 · 28/04/2019 19:43

If no-one else will say it then I will. That is a truly awful name. Why would you do that to a child? Imagine the teasing at school. Selfish parenting.

Even worse than the beautiful blonde haired and blue eyed 'Gertrude' a friend called her daughter and another's 'Atlas' (we do live in Brighton). Please please reconsider for the sake of your lovely daughter.

marvellousnightforamooncup · 28/04/2019 19:47

Zombie thread!

Nanalisa60 · 28/04/2019 20:01

Never seen so many message withdrawn!!

For one minute I thought it was April fools day!!

GertrudeCB · 28/04/2019 20:07

Over 10 years old people !

EllenMP · 28/04/2019 20:10

Whoa. I think we were all imaging an Apple or Annunziata kind of name. You have gone to a whole new level here. Have you considered that she may not want to be named after her brief covering of amniotic fluid ten years after it was washed off? And that you have obviously doomed her to be a Slytherin without consulting her own wishes? I can’t imagine how embarrassed she will be when people ask where she got her interesting name. “Uh, I was covered in gunk from my mother’s womb at the time. Like every other newborn baby is at the moment of birth.” How is that special or particular to your baby? All babies look slithery when they come out.

I really think you should go back to the drawing board and find something that fits the baby you have in your arms today, who is already presumably not slithery.

I know it’s hard to find a name that’s unusual but not bonkers, but I think you should keep looking until you find one.

Also, please don’t say “red Indian.” It’s super offensive to native Americans.

MrsBadcrumble123 · 28/04/2019 20:14

Is this a joke post?? Honestly never heard of a more stupid name in my whole life and I’ve heard of some goodens Blush

confusedat30 · 28/04/2019 20:19

Lmao this is definitely not real 😂

Lovely13 · 28/04/2019 20:34

Lols to this thread. Lots of other inappropriate names come to mind.
Or just stick with Anne...

Ayemama · 28/04/2019 20:34

Please please please tell me this name is a joke! Imagine applying for a job with that name, that’s if the poor girl even makes it through school intact.
No one in their right mind would doom their child to a name like that!

Attitude84 · 28/04/2019 20:48

I’m sorry but if that is your DDs real name, then it’s terrible. There’s unusual and there’s being named after a slimey snake.

MIL is still being unreasonable none the less and your husband should be on your side regardless.

Please think of a nice different unusual name that isn’t slithery or Lucy.

MitziK · 28/04/2019 20:58

I have visions of September 5th's registration period.

Letitia? S'Miss
Blessing? S'Miss
Bethan? S'Miss
Mia-Jade? S'Miss
Jade-Mia? S'Miss
Mia-Jade Mia? S'Miss
Praise? S'Miss
Mia-Mia-Jayde-May? S'Miss
Cloud? S'Miss
Summer? S'Miss
Autumn? S'Miss
Rainbow? S'Miss
Slithery?

Slithery?

You're the only person in the class who hasn't answered. Is there a problem?

'My name's Lucy, Miss'

[glances at the photo on SIMS where it clearly matches Slithery Anne Blenkinsop-Whittingham]

'Ah, right. Welcome to year 7, Lucy'.

Waytooearly · 28/04/2019 20:59

Just how floppy is this baby?

embo1 · 28/04/2019 21:07

Change it. But not to Lucy.

JustMe70 · 28/04/2019 21:12

@MitziK that had me in stitches... brilliant Grin

Surfskatefamily · 28/04/2019 21:14

I do think it is your right to call your baby what you decude abd the way your MIL has kicked off is unreasonable.

But in the kindest possible way, she probably will be picked on for slithery.

Can you think of anything else from her birth that could contibute to her name? Joy, happy, strong, beauty, together, power, warrior, wild, new, faith
Or maybe some meaning from your
time being pregnant.

TigerTooth · 28/04/2019 21:36

Ffs - it’s disgusting!
Call her silver, or misty or some other hippy dippy name but Slithery is just disgusting and actually cruel.

TurrettOnLine · 28/04/2019 21:44

This thread is over 10 years old

forumdonkey · 28/04/2019 22:03

How did I ever miss this thread? 🤣🤣. Some Zombie threads are worth resurrecting for the lols