As the title says. He hasn't explicitly said that he doesn't want to, it's just that he doesn't ask to.
For context: been dating a few years, very very slow burn, didn't meet one another's children until after a year.
He's not great at the hands on dad thing. Previously when we have got together with them, my boyfriend has been more interested in his phone or his own needs.
One time we went to a leisure centre. Boyfriend spent 95% of the time alone in the adult spa area whilst I watched the kids.
I did bring this up afterwards and said it wasn't acceptable and was unfair.
Twice since then I asked to get together again with them and he totally ignored me. Just left the message on read and didn't respond.
I made it clear that I was again unhappy and wouldn't be asking again.
He doesn't ask. He doesn't seem to have any interest in integrating them. The kids do get on really well.
Think I am just struggling with WHY he doesn't want to get us all together?
I feel so lonely and bored of doing everything alone with my children. I genuinely thought when I met my boyfriend, that we would spend more time together as a big family, but instead I feel like he maybe just wanted a babysitter/nanny whilst he continued to do as he pleased.
It's really affecting my self-worth and making me doubt myself; I feel so hurt that he doesn't want to spend time with me/us.