Would you stay with a kind but emotionally immature partner?

[Prinnypeach]

If you was with an emotional immature man who you had to teach how to deal with situations and how to react to things, but they were really nice, kind, patient, and had a heart of gold, would you walk away?

friends and family have said if I walk I might never meet anyone else and there’s lots of A holes in the world. A few close friends have said niceness doesnt excuse emotional immaturity at the ripe old age of 34 and that I should let it go and move on, better to be alone than teaching someone things when I already have a LO to bring up. It’s been nearly 2 years and still having to teach how to deal with difficult conversations and how to handle minor disagreements.

im torn. What would the consensus be for most people, with the way of the dating world (and world in general) would you stay or call it?

I do think that sounds sensible. He is clearly not a bad person and might make someone a great partner, but it doesn't sound like it's you.

@TheRealMagic yes he is amazing but likely just not compatiable.

My daughter has just walked away from a relationship like this. She had to carry him through every single aspect of life, he couldn't manage his emotions and 'ran away' every time he came up against something difficult. He couldn't apply for a passport, couldn't sort out an MOT, couldn't cope with anything difficult at work. She was exhausted.

Absolutely, he is not your only option.

its possible that you think he can be helped to understand these things but in fact he is just humouring you and letting you show how it works better. He may never actually adopt your way of looking at things. You will for ever be dragging him along.

don’t ask me how I know xx

If someone is only kind and patient when things are going their way, they’re not kind and patient at all.

If he genuinely can’t discuss anything uncomfortable he is not fit to be in a relationship.

You say you've been teaching him how to cope but you haven't @Prinnypeach because he hasn't learnt anything, every time you have a disagreement he still goes back to the silent treatment so you've not changed him. A long term relationship needs two reasonably mature and capable people if it's to be happy for both, you can have different skills which complement each other but you both have to work at it, he isn't, he sounds as clueless now as when you started 2 years ago, still shutting down at the smallest difficulty.

It's only been 2 years, you're still young Op, don't fall into the trap of thinking you can't do better so you'll just stay and be miserable

You already have a child. You don't need a partner you also have to raise to adulthood. This guy sounds like a project, not an adult.

Peter Pan types struggle with the basics of adulting, chores, paying bills, responsibility, they tend to be very avoident, and they gravitate to the Wendy types that will take care of them. He's not kind, he's failed to launch and requiring extra time and effort and cleanup that should be reserved for your child. You'll give and give and he'll take and take and you'll burn out. Putting you into a caregiving role is not kind.

I would call it quits simply because being a functioning adult is one of the most basic dating criteria. If an adult man can't take care of his basic needs, I'm not going to do it for him.

No.