Hi, wasn't sure whether to list this under holidays or here. I'm looking for guidance and different perspective on family holidays with wider family in particular in-laws. Looking for advice on planning, managing expectations and costs etc. I may be overthinking this but just wondered about tips and advice people may have. My husband has suggested that it's a non-negotiable to holiday with his parents. They are divorced so we would be having seperate trips with them. We have a young child. I think he wants to holiday with them for quality time but also for babysitting for us. I find both sets a little awkward and to some degree difficult but would obviously do my best. I'm more comfortable with FIL and his 2nd wife but still feel abit apprehensive.
I have never pressured or expected hubby to holiday with my family. We visited my Dad once who works and lives abroad so I see him occasionally throughout the year whereas we see his parents atleast once a month and MIL more. I never holidayed with my Grandparents.
I'm looking for tips and guidance and things to factor in. I'm wondering about things like where to stay (e.g airbnb), sharing costs, sharing cooking and how we spend time. DO we spend the whole time together or split off and how to do this. Concerned about DCs routine aswell I think and worrying about being abit boring because we have a young child. I would like my hubby to sort it all with it being his family but also apprehensive that nothing will be planned and expectations won't be managed if I leave it to him. His Dad is pretty chilled though really so I may be worrying for nothing.