Buckle up, its a long one.
So, been with H 34 years, he is 15 years older and retired. Children, grandchildren. He would , over the first 15 years or so, compare me to his ex when he had been drinking. She was slim, tanned, tiny and gorgeous. I was none of those things. He would always apologise the next day, say he didn't mean it and I was daft enough to let it go until one day I wasnt and I asked him to leave. He came back a few days later davistated, we had counselling and got to a healthy place.
Fast forward to 5 years ago and they got in touch via Facebook, he told me and all was above board, she was married and had moved to Wales. Fast forward again to the last few weeks. We live in a hot country, we moved when DH retired. I work , compressed hours over 3 days. In the summer its really difficult, but manageable as long as I ger enough rest , water and access to cool down. Never been a problem until the last few weeks. I came in one day and H was suprised, said I was home early - I wasnt. Really off with me. Next day was a split shift, came home for a siesta and he woke me after 10 mins saying I couldnt sleep all day. This has carried on, as has moaning about me using fans/ ac. Its been steady 30 + weather here for weeks.
Yesterday he asked me to sort out his ancient mobile as it was glitching and a message pops up from the ex- love you, our chats keep me sane. So I snooped. An hour phone call with her every week starting on the day he was suddenly off with me. Lots of love you, love you too 💖 type messages.
Im not going mad here am I, this is/ verging on an EA?