Husband staying over at boss’s house. Normal?

[Lana20]

Hi everyone. Does anyone think this is normal or something to be worried about? My sister’s husband works for a wealthy family that have a country house. He has been invited to stay with them for the weekend and he has accepted. My sister doesn’t want him to go but he’s going anyways as he’s hoping to get a bonus/promotion soon. His wife and her parents are also staying there & my sister finds it’s strange that he would want to stay at their house especially whilst his wife is there. Would this bother anyone or would this be considered normal?

Well the husband didn’t invite him so he could shag his wife surely.

I think this is a non-issue in terms of risk of infidelity etc. However, given that it is an issue for your sister, she should talk to him and explain her feelings, even misplaced worry is still valid.

No nothing like that. She thinks the wife is encouraging her husband to invite him over so she can get closer to him as it seems the wife fancies him

Staying at their family getaway is surely the least likely place for infidelity to develop?

Your sister is bonkers, what's the boss's wife going to do with her husband and family there?

Sounds like she doesn't trust her husband, has he got form?

Honestly it’s bloody hard being a woman in a senior position at times - is she a different nationality as her comments may not be flirty culturally? Making requests doesn’t sound outside her remit?

if her DH wants to shag his boss then the will - but his bosses husband will probably be unimpressed so it’s a sure fire way to end up unemployed and divorced

Lynn! 🤣

Yes that’s what I said it’s not likely she’ll flirt with her husband there. No he’s not cheated before & she usually totally trusts him she’s just not fond of this lady at all

How often has she met her?

Her husband would have to be absolutely idiotic to shag his boss's wife, under his nose, at his house.
Hopefully, his door will have a lock and he can fend her off if she gets handsy in public.
He might need to look for another job if she is persistent.

She trusts her husband

Then there should be nothing more to say.

But she doesn't trust him, does she?!

If she trusts her husband, what is the problem? Is she worried that the wife will force herself upon him?

I would have no problem with this. I mean he’s abroad working and his colleague is probably one of his only friends.

I’d assume he’s invited as a work thing not as a guest. Families like that rarely see employees as friends(although they may say they do).

Sounds normal.

Swingers!

She wants him to keep it more professional & just see them at work. She thinks there’s no need to stay for a weekend. She’s feeling a bit lonely & insecure as she’s home with the kids & he’s away working

Omg lol

The woman is unattractive & not her husband’s type whereas my sister is absolutely stunning so I’m not sure why she’s feeling insecure to be honest. Her husband is also not the cheating type

She shouldn’t be using her insecurities to jeopardise his career tbh

and being friends with colleagues - boss or not is not that unusual. I imagine they think he’s lonely so are offering a weekend with company. Should she really begrudge that because she’s feeling lonely too? Should they both sit at their respective homes being lonely all weekend?

Given your posting history around affairs etc I think you need to do some work on yourself here - there’s clearly something not quite right and you need to get to the bottom of it but posting different scenarios on here to get opinions isn’t going to help you

Haha ‘sex people’ I don’t know why I enjoyed this so much but I really did

I don’t believe in mixing business with pleasure so on that basis it’s crossed professional boundaries.
But I know many successful businessmen/women who operate like large extended families.
Are you and the kids invited? Pool or lake front etc?

Yes that’s fair. She wouldn’t normally have an issue with it at all it’s only bothering her because the woman has been complimenting him a fair bit & has also been calling him with requests. As he works for the husband not her my sister thought this was unnecessary & she’s making excuses to get close to him