WWYD? It was a big birthday for our DIL a few weeks ago. She is a delightful young woman and we get on well. We asked our DS what she'd like for a birthday present, and he suggested a contribution to the activities he'd arranged for the day (all interesting ones), so we happily transferred £100. We've also got her a smaller present, which we'll hand over tomorrow when we'll see them both, as just sending money seems a bit impersonal. The dilemma is this: we heard nothing after sending the money (to our son) and I think it's possible that he just didn't think to tell her that we'd paid for part of the day. I don't want or need thanks, but I would hate to think that our DIL would imagine that we just hadn't bothered about her big birthday. I don't want to say anything to her that could be understood as a reproach, but I really want her to know that we did send her a present! I'm thinking of handing over the small gift and saying something like 'Obviously, the actual present was the contribution to your day, but this is just something to keep'. Or some such thing. What would you do?