This is a funny one. And I do KNOW that the fault lies largely with my OH.
So, my DP & I - v late 40s are together nearly 5 years. He’s got a small friendship group of 3 friends from his home town - who don’t live near us - that we’ve stayed with / they’ve stayed with us. One couple largely because the wife and I organised it. .. but all good.
My DP is my his own admission just really crap at organising social stuff with both friends and his family. I’m ok with that.
He does however have his truly “best” friend - since they were 5, he was his best man etc etc. I have only met this guy twice - essentially in “passing”. We got on well, all seemed fine.
For the last 18months, we have lived less than an hour from the friend and his family (they have younger kids). Essentially we moved to their part of the country. I am SO hurt that we as a couple have never once been invited to their home. I have never met his wife or his kids.
Clearly they could come here. But when I mentioned OP organising that he says oh it’s harder for them to go places with young kids. He sees the friend pretty often - at the friends behest. He invites my partner over to do a hobby that he and his kid enjoy. Last time he went in March I did express how utterly bizarre and quite hurtful it was that after 4.5yrs I had yet to be invited to meet X and his family. He agreed and said X has mentioned us coming over for dinner etc he’d get a date in the diary.
Yet here we are another few months down the line and I’m sat here like a lemon on a bank holiday whilst he’s out in the countryside with this friend.
I know this is an OH issue but my friends would be mortified to be in the same position. We’ve been invited to the country houses of them - a very wide group that has extended every warmth and hospitality to him. Pisses me right off I must say. Just rude. By them both.