My strangest expierence with a female - what was that?

[PabThePablo]

So that girl starts messaging me first: in general she talks a lot about failed relationships and having zero interest in dating (she’s been hurt), she even shows me how she shuts down guys who hit on her + she strongly keeps things in the “just friends” frame with me (I was cool with it).
Then she starts texting me LITERALLY every day – sharing her day, asking A LOT about me. We did have great chemistry (text-wise), but I didn’t like it – it was too much for “friends”. I try to pull away from it, and she chases.
I was like… we do have a good chemistry. Maybe “I don’t date” is just a safety thing? So here I go…

First I send her a Christmas gift (to see if she’d even give me her personal details since it’s an online friendship — NO PROBLEM, she loved it), then I introduce flirting — SHE HERSELF KEEPS ESCALATING IT, then I invite her to a casual “getting to know each other” meetup — SHE AGREES IMMEDIATELY (2 hours drive on her behalf).

It looked amazing until… a week before the meetup, “her depression gets worse,” we cancel it, and I let it go. I was very suspicious about timing so I was like “maybe I should back off”. And so I did. She starts chasing again, but she doesn’t bring up meeting up at all. I gently bring up the meetup again — once again, immediately she says: “Yeah, we can do that :3”

A week later, when there’s finally room to actually meet, she suddenly pulls back hard and starts a slow fade (after 2 months of daily contact). She stops initiating and, while still being nice, dynamics shifts drastically. She’s out and so am I.

What in the world was that? It’s like she was super interested through text, but a simple coffee date was way too much. I know for a fact that she’s not taken or actively dating (I tried to investigate).

If someone’s pretending to be her and talking to random guys online she has the right to know.

So sorry to see you are having a hard time on here. Some of the responses are awful. If this woman is real or not she clearly isn’t someone safe to engage with. I would block all contact methods and be gentle on yourself. The online dating etc is brutal for both men and women. Really hope you meet someone who treats you well soon

This. Makes perfect sense.

Sounds like something off an episode of catfish (the tv show!)

Jesus I thought you were 16

Her identity doesn't add up. She doesn't work where she said she was. Police is already involved. "Not leaving her alone" was the right thing to do :)

Now you’re just being silly. The police are involved because she doesn’t work where she said she works? 🤣 you said “she told me where she works and her name is on their website with the photo”, you also said “I know a girl who knows her personally”.

The girl who knows her personally is from the same group (online). She was texting me too, but only for few days. I seriously asked the cops if its suspicious and they told me that some people catfish for info to do the burglary later, but as long as it didnt happen, nothing they can do. I'll just keep my eyes opened just in case.

So are you actually now getting the police involved simply because she turned you down? Get a life.

Umm…yeah wtf…the police move was mental.
She hasn’t done anything even if she is a catfish.
what on earth were you thinking xD

Can just imagine the police like “so you’re reporting someone from this internet for… for…maybe not being who they say they are?”.

fyi it is probably the girl you were texting first that “knows” her.