Middle-aged woman here who used to work in the porn industry for 15 years.
I just felt like commenting because some of you sound like you know things for a fact but it is so far from my experience. I was mostly working in Europe: Germany, Czechia, Hungary, France and Poland and of course the UK, but we travelled to work a lot to the US, and lovely exotic places too.
You could say I've seen a lot of crews, met a lot of actors and actresses from different cultures. First, never in your life will you meet a bigger diva than a porn actress, and I wont pretend I was humble and easy either. Especially past the 2010s. Out of all the people, I hardly met anyone who was forced or coerced into it. We all wanted the easy money, the luxury it could buy, to be able to buy a house, pay off mortgages, cars, go on lush holidays. As a young woman it seemed to beat being behind a tesco till. I know it makes sense in people's heads that it is just one of those industries where everyone is being used and abused, taken advantage of, but it's just about money, nobody forced me to. And my god, the other actors and actresses surely did not take advantage of me either. Big girls and big boys make adult decisions. And if your most intimate bits have a price tag, it's up to you. It definitely affects you and it changes how you view intimacy, that much is true, but things are simpler than you think.
Those girls who you could say were coerced into it by some scam artist or a partner were just too dumb to say no and leave it, I am sorry, it is not like in the movies that they would've been beaten senseless or held their loved ones hostage. They were the simple ones who stayed in because they were told they wouldn't be loved by the scammer guy otherwise or some other nonsense. You know the type. The one who believes in giving you a 10th chance if you show up with a rose. I am sorry, but that to me is stupid and their choice to be blind. Abuse on set never happened, other than the odd pushing of boundaries, but it was never forced after you said no. I said no anal when I was still a newbie, and some guy still tried to put it in, or a director would come up with something random on the spot. Jumped up curssing, we cut, apologies, and that is it. Wouldn't take him to court over it. Something like that happened only a few times, and I have done a lot of these, hence my changed username. What you are imagining is someone living in a third-world country being sold off, etc, places where human life is not valued like it is elsewhere in the world. Because that is all very low-key and underground, do you know what amount of porn come from such backgrounds? I do. And it's staggeringly low. The ones you imagine when you are saying coerced are abused with or without porn. Sad as it is.
I would also add, we girls always, always made way more than the men, not even a comparison, they got a fraction of what we got. As far as I know that did not change. So much for being used. The ones who had some serious problems with abuse or addiction already had them before they got involved with porn, that is important I think. Let's be real, most of us wanted to do it as an alternative to working all your life. The smart ones invested it. I want to believe I was somewhat smart. Most just partied it away.
The lesson that all of us in the industry learn too late in life though? Exactly what the OP is about: Not a lot of people want to be with someone who is plastered all over the internet in hardcore situations, every orifice stretched by men, women, toys, etc. It's not even the amount of partners. I have a "one that got away" kind of big love in my past, he couldn't see this as just my job. But I chose money. I learned to regret it, live with it. Many others couldn't accept it either. Now I have a partner, but it is not a fairy tale, we could say it is "settling". That is the price. The lavish holidays were amazing, and it certainly is great to be mortgage-free, but that was the real price of it.
As for you, OP, Just follow your heart, be with someone you could truly love, I am not here to convince anyone otherwise just because I also come from that industry. Wish you all the best.