He introduced me as his friend..

[anotherpunprick]

Seeing one another for the past two and half months.
Hes eager, consistent, reliable, plans great dates, actions match words and just absolutely lovely to be in his company.
we are exclusive but never had the ‘what are we’ character both mid fifties, divorced etc.
We bumped into his cousin and he introduced me as his friend. I wa snot impressed and said to him later on. He agreed and said he panicked in the heat of the moment and didn’t know he onto introduce me. This man is Mr Sociable and outgoing so I was a bit 🥴. I tend to suggested he just introduce me as ‘anotherpunprick’ ie my name to which he agreed and apologised profusely .
Is it not time to perhaps label what we are andnhowndontoubpavepmamcouple in their duties who are only seeing each other over two months?
Was this awful to you / a dealbreaker?
His actions scream interest and investment in us for now and at least in the near future .
thanks

God imagine if he’d said “this is my current fwb” 😂

And in order to decide on those preferred terms it’s likely to be necessary to have… another conversation!

He panicked, the term girlfriend seems odd past a certain age and partner seems very serious, too soon. Lady friend seems even weirder, my friend described my now dh as my gentleman friend, so old fashioned

😂😂😂

companion! 😂

Why did you allow your children to be “destroyed” for years?

In my experience when you’re a grown up “friend” is code for dating /shagging but it’s early days.

i completely agree! I think it was more polite/gallant to introduce you that way than to explicitly point out to a random that you’re shagging.

Is this a wind up ????
Why did ‘I’ allow ‘MY’ children to be destroyed for years ?
Maybe reread your post and have a word with yourself . Jesus Christ .

Friend is just fine what was he supposed to call you after 2 months

They probably mean because you said he destroyed you and your children for years before he left you… I.e he was destroying them but you didn’t leave him. Just try and ignore it, it’s not what your post is about anyway and nobody on here has enough info about you or your ex to judge you, it was an unnecessary comment on their part.

Yes, that’s exactly what I meant.

I think it was meant to be ‘ramalamadingdong” 😂

OP explained in the post exactly what that bit means

I don’t think we are ever going to find out

Another in the ‘calm down’ camp. Honestly nothing to see here, move on and enjoy your growing ‘friendship’.

It's up to you what your dealbreakers are.

If you're uncomfortable with what happened, that matters. You're the one who was there. We don't see the whole picture of how he reacted or the body language or tone.

If it's put you on alert, I'd listen to that and consider it a red flag.

A red flag doesn't mean you have to chuck him straightaway, you can just file it as information to bear in mind, depending how strongly you feel.

Yes, you are being ridiculous.

You are making an issue out of absolutely nothing.

I like ‘correctness’ in language, but sorry you are being ridiculous.

Friend is a lovely term to have used in the context of the situation.

To answer your question no it’s not a dealbreaker.

I think friend was fine ( I think girlfriend or partner would have been worse)

to be honest I kept rereading your opening lines about how great and thoughtful he us and thinking his nice it was to read a post where someone was dating a lovely man.

My partner doesn't introduce me into people we bump into even after 7 years! It only bothers me because I'm stood there awkwardly and I feel the onus is on the person who knows both people to do the introducing but maybe I'm old fashioned.

I agree with the general sentiments here - you're over reacting given the brevity of your relationship. It's a positive he's introducing you to his friends. Maybe he doesn't want to over estimate or assume the status of your relationship this early - that thoughtfulness, measured restraint seems like a grown up way to behave to me so don't clout him for it - it seems like you might be the impatient one.. and that's probably not a good thing. Enjoy the journey, these are early days.

Calm down! Poor guy. You’re complete OTT if you think this should be a dealbreaker

You’re both in your mid-50s - do you really want to be called a girlfriend? Lover? Significant other?

You've only been seeing him a few weeks i wouldn't get het up over it.
Maybe he could of just said your name men can be awkward at times as we can ...
Just roll with it act accordingly.
As friends.

Super early days. Two months is nothing. If you want to make a commitment to each other now, then have the conversation with him. I started seeing someone last year who was referring to me as his amazing new girlfriend, love, princess, to his family and friends after TWO weeks. He barely knew me and as it turned out, he ended up being a total weirdo. Now that WAS a red flag... red bunting level.

If you're getting on well and you don't have any red flags, then try to relax and give it no more thought. It's definitely not worth ending it over!

Wow. If a friend said my husband was abusive and destroyed the kids and I for years, would you shout at them You let that happen to your children?? Is this the comment of a kind, thoughtful person?