He introduced me as his friend..

[anotherpunprick]

Seeing one another for the past two and half months.
Hes eager, consistent, reliable, plans great dates, actions match words and just absolutely lovely to be in his company.
we are exclusive but never had the ‘what are we’ character both mid fifties, divorced etc.
We bumped into his cousin and he introduced me as his friend. I wa snot impressed and said to him later on. He agreed and said he panicked in the heat of the moment and didn’t know he onto introduce me. This man is Mr Sociable and outgoing so I was a bit 🥴. I tend to suggested he just introduce me as ‘anotherpunprick’ ie my name to which he agreed and apologised profusely .
Is it not time to perhaps label what we are andnhowndontoubpavepmamcouple in their duties who are only seeing each other over two months?
Was this awful to you / a dealbreaker?
His actions scream interest and investment in us for now and at least in the near future .
thanks

Also in 50s in very new relationship, we call each other 'friends'. I think it's a given that people can read into that what they like!

me too😂

You're over-thinking OP.

I'm in my 50s, not married, but been with my partner for 10 years.
I feel too old to refer to him as a "boyfriend".
Now I can refer to him as my partner, because we've been together for a decade.
But after 8 weeks, I would probably have introduced his as my friend.

I'm a year into a similar relationship. It was probably at about your stage we had the conversation and agreed we'd be happy to say we were boyfriend and girlfriend...altho it does make us laugh as we're such old codgers 😅

No I think it’s wholly appropriate to introduce you as his friend at that age - it’s not really anyone’s business

2 months is 8 weeks - not long at all

And how would you behave as a coupe int heir 50s maybe?

What about

anotherpunprick ??

Very good! In another life you could have worked at Bletchley Park!!

Can’t usually figure them out!!’ 😂😂😂

I think you’re massively over reacting. This is a classic awkward moment at the start of many relationships. Move on.

Yes, OP, you have been too sensitive. But nobody's perfect - neither you nor him - and if you're back in the world of dating after a long time away from it, you may be hypervigilant about things.

It sounds like he is ticking many boxes and you are having fun with him. As you know, there are no guarantees - things could continue to go from strength to strength or they could peter out or come to an abrupt and unexpected end. But that can actually happen at any time to any relationship. Sure, I wouldn't expect to be left completely out of the blue by my DH (we've been together 25+ years) and I think the fact that we've gone on this long means that we will probably continue. But nothing is ever certain and you get people posting on here who have been left unexpectedly after decades with their partner. There's really no reason why that couldn't also be me at some point.

Dating, falling in love, loving carry some risk but if you're with a good guy, and it sounds like he is a good guy, the rewards generally outweigh the risk. Worrying about being hurt ahead of time doesn't reduce the risk of it happening and it can in fact bring it about because it can put unnecessary pressure on the relationship. Trust the process. The relationship sounds like it has started well and it will go where it's meant to go. It's hard but you need to relax and enjoy it for what it is and let it unfold gradually.

Would you have preferred ''My current squeeze ha ha!' ?'

Or my girlfriend? 😂

too soon for life partner

Same!

Also, calm down OP. He was probably flummoxed as to whether to say girlfriend lady friend or whatever. It’s confusing these days!

That’s her username 🤦‍♀️

Yes I was also left after decades due to betrayal. He destroyed me and our children for years

I think at 2.5 Months in I wouldn’t worry about it. But certainly by 12 months I wouldn’t like that sort of underplaying of reality, because it makes it sound like he’s embarrassed to be seen with you.

Your reaction might be a deal breaker for him

FWIW, my partner's mum (who is absolutely lovely and with whom I've always got on well) once introduced me to someone as 'And this is Bauhaus, my son's... girl.'

I was over 40 at the time and had been living with her son for about 15 years at that point. She just kind of panicked and didn't know how I'd like to be described. I didn't take it as some kind of dramatic sign that she doesn't consider me to be part of the family!

I would've felt more awkward had he introduced me as his g/f after such a short amount of time of dating. Friend is fine. Am pretty sure his cousin would've realised anyway that you're a new girl he's been seeing.

He apologised, he explained his panic. Why would you find this a dealbreaker? I honestly don't get it, esp if you get on and enjoy each others company.

This is all so weird. Surely when two people decide that they are exclusive, then that should automatically mean they are in a relationship and therefore boyfriend/girlfriend (or whichever terms are preferred).

Exclusivity means you're not dating anyone else...and a breakup can happen any time, regardless how long a couple has been together. So I don't really see why anyone should be confused after the exclusivity chat. Having an extra chat at some arbitrary point in time to start defining a relationship as boyfriend/girlfriend after exclusivity has already been determined seems pointless IMO.

Exclusive only means you're not going to bang anyone else while you're banging the other person. It doesn't mean they're in a relationship. It means they want to be safe about sex. Fuck buddies can be exclusive.

I think it would have been more intense to say you were his GF after 8 weeks.

Don't over think this.

Your post made me think of the song lyric

“…and if you’re looking for a way out I won’t stand in your way….”

app are you looking for a way out?

Or partner!