I've been with my boyfriend for a year. We each have our own children and busy schedules with ft work, clubs etc. We see each other one evening a week, plus a few hours here and then when it's possible. We've not yet met each others kids, or even told our exes that either is in a relationship. We're both really reticent to change anything, because really it still feels like the honeymoon period, but we're also getting frustrated with the lack of time we can spend together. It's getting to the point where children will have to be introduced, but while he's happy to meet my kids, he doesn't see me meeting his for the foreseeable, due to how mentally unstable his ex is. I'm okay with this, but in the five years since I split with my kids dad, I've never introduced them to any romantic partner, and neither has their dad. So this will be completely new to them, and to our dynamic. I'm very happy in my current setup, and very content with my life, so making changes would purely be to see the boyfriend more. I'm keen that it is done well, and positively impacts us all. But I have ZERO idea how to even start this process.
If you've gone through this, how did you approach it? What worked? What would you recommend?
I'm concerned that I'll make this change and it'll all fall apart and I'll end up scarring my kids for life, since they'll essentially be the test case for us both.
Potentially some of you will recommend keeping things just as they are!