Hi everyone,
it’s a long one 🙈
I just wanted some advice really and maybe just someone to listen.
I (F 40) have been split up and divorced from my ex husband for over 5 years now , we have 2 children (12 and 7) and I met my new partner just under 5 years ago.
I absolutely value and love my man to pieces and i know this is cheesy but he really is my soul mate and my person.my children adore him and he has been the biggest blessing to us all. But we are struggling currently with my ex and his constant pressure and interfering in our lives.
I have a court order with my ex for the children and he has has breached the order from day one. Constantly in and out of my children lives and there is constant drama and upset. My partner has been amazingly supportive to me and the children and he treats the children like his own.
we bought our dream home together a year ago and we are building for our future.
my ex husband really doesn’t like this or anything we do and he makes our lives a absolute misery.
For context- he divorced me and left me after many cheating allegations on his part and was founded to be very controlling and was arrested for coercisive and financial control- which he was found guilty for.
So Iam confused and just wondering why he cannot seem to let us move on.
He wants the children at a drop of a hat, no communication and if I say we are busy or no because the children don’t want too, I receive loads of abuse via txts and so many threats of taking me back to court. Now recently the 12 year old is refusing to go to see their dad Which we fully support but do also try to encourage a relationship with their dad.
This has caused a letter from his solicitor stating he will be taking me to court if I do not make the 12 year old see him etc. my solicitor replied and advised them of many things and to stop hassling me.
Last week I recieved texts to say I was being taken back to court as he believes his parents should have rights with their grandchildren and he wants them to have the children whilst he is working abroad and if I don’t say yes, I will be take to court. Although this makes no sense to me what so ever and I have scoffed at the letter. It has caused me and my partner some stress. Yesterday I recieved a text to tell me he was buying a house 5 min walk from our new home and our local shop and pub will be the same as his.
This caused me major upset and my partner to feel angry (not with me) and a bad atmosphere in the home.
Iam just so disappointed and upset at my ex and how he can continue like this after 5 years of not being together and him leaving me.
I have said to my partner in the past he can leave and I don’t blame him and my ex will haunt me forever and he has always been sympathetic and said we are a team and he’s had my back always. But yesterday I was really upset and he was angry and I made the comment about he can leave if he wants, and he looked at me and said - i may have too, if this carries on as I can’t keep dealing with it.
I was really taken back and so upset, we haven’t spoken to each other day.
Has anyone else had similar? Please tell me it will be ok 🥲
Sorry for the long one, Iam just feeling sad and at a loss today and needed to let it out