Is my nephew gay?

[Duiwjankdjen16382]

My younger nephew is 18 and has a male friend. They seem to be out all the time together and they have been on holiday together. His friends parents come round to my sisters house to have drinks bbq and watch sports and have games nights. My sister and her husband and my nephews friends parents have only met through my nephew and his friend. Does this seem like a normal thing to do when u have a friend? His friend has been round and chilled in my nephews room before. Nephew 18 friend 19. Is this normal or does it sound like he's gay? I have asked and been told no just friends. I would hate to think that he couldn't tell me and would judge. You can't help who ur attracted to or who u love.

Who cares?

Maybe he is, maybe its juat his mate. Regardless, its none of your business and if he is gay and wants to tell you, im sure he will when hes older.

How on Earth are any of us on this forum supposed to know if your nephew is gay?

He might be, he might not be - he’ll tell you if there’s anything he wants you to know.

Does it matter?

Why do you want to know @Duiwjankdjen16382 ?

Why does it matter?

Is this normal or does it sound like he's gay?

I can’t think why he wouldn’t tell you if he is.

It really doesn't matter and if he does ever come out thats when you show support and even then words etc won't necessarily be needed.

It’s none of your business really, whether he’s straight or gay he doesn’t have to announce anything to you

Not sure it has anything to do with you OP. If he’s gay and he wants to tell you, he will.

The bigger issue is that his aunt desoerately wants to know. So what if he is?

Do you analyse all friendships like this?

It's really disturbing that your OP contrasts "normal" and "gay" as opposites. It's not the 1980s any more, Section 28 was repealed 23 years ago. Homosexuaity is completely normal. Homophobia isn't. Caring about what kind of genitals your nephew is more interested in when it comes to sexual relationships is really weird.

It doesn't matter does it? Why does anyone even feel the need to ask?

Does this seem like a normal thing to do when u have a friend?

Have u ever had a friend @Duiwjankdjen16382 ? What sort of thing did u do with them?

Did you interact with them? Answer questions, ask reasonable questions of them, have conversations? Or did u just throw in a little fizzy bath bomb to create an increase in traffic for your whatever.

Is he happy?
If yes, then everything is fine, surely?

No one here could tell you, and it doesn't matter, you don't need to know. Asking is a bit ott. If he know you and you aren't homophobic then presumably he will know that he can talk about a girlfriend or a boyfriend equally.

I think the use of "normal" as the opposite to gay indicates that you aren't quite as non-homophobic as you think you are.

What a strange question! How are we supposed to know?

He may or may not be gay. Either way its not your business. If he is gay, he will come out when it feels appropriate for him

Why wouldn't it be normal for friends' parents to be friendly with each other? Also what a patronising statement- you can't help who you love. Which cringey tshirt did you get that line from? And more importantly, as others have said, how would any of us know the sexual preferences of your nephew?

Are you gay, OP?

My weak evidence being that you seem a bit obsessed with whether somebody else is gay.

You can't help who ur attracted to or who u love

I would have no way of knowing if your Nephew is gay or not and would care even less.

I have not had sex with him and I am a woman so that's a maybe.

You'e asked and been told 'no'. Either way it's none of your business. We think (her parents and me) my eldest godchild might be gay, but until she tells me or introduces me to someone it is none of my business, and even then the limit of it being my business is whether she is happy or not. And that's it. She knows that my best friend is gay, so I hope she would feel happy to tell me at some point in the future if that is where she feels her sexuality is leading.

The only people it matters to is them. Be patient, wait for them to say they're a couple- or not.