Is my nephew gay?

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My younger nephew is 18 and has a male friend. They seem to be out all the time together and they have been on holiday together. His friends parents come round to my sisters house to have drinks bbq and watch sports and have games nights. My sister and her husband and my nephews friends parents have only met through my nephew and his friend. Does this seem like a normal thing to do when u have a friend? His friend has been round and chilled in my nephews room before. Nephew 18 friend 19. Is this normal or does it sound like he's gay? I have asked and been told no just friends. I would hate to think that he couldn't tell me and would judge. You can't help who ur attracted to or who u love.

Maybe your nephew is gay, maybe he isn't. It doesn't matter.
One of my nephews is gay, no one in the family batted an eyelid when he confirmed it, we'd suspected for years, including his grandparents in their late eighties. He and his partner are both lovely, great men.

One of the weirdest threads I’ve read on MN. And it’s a crowded field tbh.

"Is it normal or doe it sound like he's gay?"

Gosh, I can't imagine why they wouldn't want to discuss his sexuality with someone so homophobic.

I imagine if he was you would continue to be homophobic and then use th classic "I'm not homophobic, I have a gay nephew".

I think we can all tell why he 'wouldn't tell you' if he was gay - you sound over-involved and unhinged!

His friend has 'been in his bedroom'?! WTF, OP?!!

Get your beak out AND understand that some people, gay or straight, don't meet their life partners at 17 and settle down and start pumping out kids!

I for one was TERRIFIED as a young person of getting trapped in my small town. I avoided relationships, had an abortion when fell pregnant and ran from that town at the first opportunity, truly feeling that i never wanted to be a Mother.

I met my other half and settled down at 36. I used my absolute right as a human being and changed my mind about having kids BUT if I hadn't it wouldn't have been anyone else's damn business.

I know for a fact some of my small-town/small-mind extended family members assumed I was gay because i holidayed with my female friends. What was i supposed to do? Never go on holiday?!! Absolutely ridiculous.

Leave your nephew alone, FFS.

Your opinions on his life mean NOTHING.

Yes it’s normal.

Whether he’s gay or not really isn’t for anyone to confirm other than them.

I asked your nephew out and he turned me down so yes

And it matters because?

Nobody here can possibly know whether your nephew's gay.

It is also none of your business unless he wants to tell you.

If he does want to tell you, he'll tell you in his own time. Keep your beak out. It doesn't matter.

OP: isn't it strange these two men are spending time together?

Also OP: ". I would hate to think that he couldn't tell me and would judge. You can't help who ur attracted to or who u love."

You sound judgemental tbh

It’s nothing to do with you. He’s told you they are friends just accept that and move on

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Why do you care?

Why is is your business

Do you think it's controversial or unusual to not be straight?

Also why would a bunch of online strangers know your nephew's sexual preferences.

It's perfectly normal for both sexes to have a best friend they spend lots of time with. Didn't you when you were a teen?

It's also perfectly normal to be gay. But it's also none of your business.

I have no opinion on whether or not your nephew is gay.

I do find it odd however that you find it surprising that your sister has developed a friendship with the parents of her child's friend. Isn't that how the bulk of new friendships develop in the 18 odd years you are actively parenting?

My three closest local friends are people I met through my children. And becuase they ARE local, those are the people I socialise with the most vs the friends I've made in other parts of my life who tend to be far more spread out.

His friend has been round and chilled in my nephews room before.

This all sounds utterly normal for friends. Did you never go on holiday with a friend or hang out in their room as a teen? I have no idea if he's gay but the examples you've given do not sound specifically like a relationship. I think you need to accept the answer you've been given and MYOB

Does it matter?
Surely it's no one's business but his. And it's completely up to what he does or doesn't share about his sexuality.

Bloody hell, what's wrong with you?!

Why shouldn't parents of teenage friends meet each other and become friends? I don't think the parents hanging out together indicates the boys are in a romantic friendship. Some boys and girls have very close friendships with the same sex it's not unusual at all nor does it imply they are gay. But it really doesn't matter one way or another.

Came here to say the same

This is none of your business and who on earth would care if he was?

My oldest son is gay, who cares hes happy im happy he's happy.

Anyone have a problem with it is on them not hurting us.
And his boyfriend is fabulous.

It is none of your business. Maybe they are friends, maybe they are more than friends. You do not have any right to know anybody else's sexuality unless you are in a relationship with them.

You say you would hate to think he wouldn't tell you but you feel it necessary to question it with strangers on the Internet.
I imagine if he is, the family knows and know just to tell the judgemental auntie that he's just friend because it's easier....

Do you have children? Only, a lot of friends are made because your kids are friends.
Maybe he is gay. Maybe he is straight and the friend is just a good friend (did you not have any same sex friends growing up?). And more to the point, does it matter?