After almost a year separated and trying to navigate a healthy co parenting relationship, I just don’t know where to go from here and what boundaries should be in place to ensure my kids are happy. We get along majority of the time, however he has a short fuse sometimes. Take last night for example, went out the 4 of us (dd9 and ds turned 12 yesterday) had a great fun night and he brought us McDonald’s back to mine because needed to get home for kids to go toilet 🤣 sat eating it and then dd started taking pics of him eating saying it’s just a fun one and won’t post it. But when she didn’t stop he lost his cool and shouted aggressively at her, grabbed the mobile and threw it against the wall. Obviously this caused her to run off scared and crying so I comforted her and told him to go, ds came upstairs shortly after as didn’t want to be around his dad and looked sad. I wanted it to be a lovely day for him and turned to shit. I did speak to dd after to explain that when someone says no and to stop she needs to listen! However it doesn’t excuse the behaviour of ripping her phone out of her hand and throwing it.
she now doesn’t want to see him today and doubt ds will. Because I chose the break up, I always feel guilty that this is my doing. However. He did have moments like this when we were together.
what should I do?