Help me urgently.... Divorce and being fucked over

[BGP]

Tried to work through things. Didn't work.

Now shitting myself as he has said after 9 years marriage I will get 50k and the kids furniture, he says he has already done stuff to protect himself.

I've not got a penny and my name is not on the deeds to the house, can he have put everything in trust to his kids?

I'm panicking about the land registry stuff and thinking he's properly screwed me, although he is desperate for me NOT to see a solicitor for advice, which I certainly will be regardless.

I'm absolutely shitting myself. What am I supposed to do re house? I can't read the stuff online too busy shaking

Please help me

Assuming you’re in the UK, Op. I’m in a different jurisdiction but similar laws. Even if he has recently created a trust over all “his” assets in favour of children, that cannot trump any interests that you have acquired over the duration of your marriage in marital assets. In the same way as he can’t sell his neighbour’s house. Lots of people have tried this to put assets beyond reach of Ex or creditors but it doesn’t work. Courts see the sham from a mile off. As others have said, speak to local solicitor pronto and don’t listen to him. Best of luck.

You two haven’t separated, still living together, sharing a bed?!

Doesn’t look like anything is moving forward at all. And as for him being reluctant for you to pursue legal advise…. Why do you care?

So pleased you're married.

You have so much more protection under the law, than if you had not been.

It sounds like he's not aware of this, with his cummy £50k offer.

However, now is the time to keep your cards close to your chest.

No matter how tempting, do not alert him to the fact you know you will be entitled to far more.

These fuckers will do anything to protect their £££. Anything.

He ended the marriage?

YABVVU for not getting legal advice.

The starting point for divorce would be 50% of everything
Property, money, pensions, cars, assets

He should pay child maintenance

Definitely see a solicitor for legal advice

He doesn't own anything. The marriage does. It doesn't matter whose name is on the papers.

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Best wishes,
MNHQ

It doesn’t work like that OP. You have legal interests in the house that are there irrelevant of what the deeds say. The Children’s Act means you both need to be adequately housed. The starting presumption for all marital assets is 50:50 and then courts adjust from there. I would say you need a solicitors appointment pronto. If you are worried about him selling the house from under you, you could enter a Restriction on Title which prevents this as a temporary measure. Your solicitor will be able to advise further. In essence. Ignore him. Gather all evidence of his assets. Solicitors next week.

Get a solicitor lined up first thing Monday. You have rights you are unaware of or he is trying to convince you that you don't have especially regarding the house. There are marital home rights regardless of the deeds etc that it would be wrong of me to try and explain/confuse on- you need a solicitor. As lots of said, do not panic. You are only at the start of this, legal advice is your friend. My solicitor took their fees out of the final settlement, check yours will agree to this. My exh tried EVERY trick in the book to mislead, gaslight, discourage me, I stuck it out. In court when the judge reviewed our financial disclosures he absolutely roasted my exh for deliberately trying to hide and manipulate financial information including trying to hide a pension and withdrawing lumps of cash. My solicitor was fantastic. Stay calm, strong, focused. Good luck xx

also just to add, if you think he's hiding assets then a forensic accountant would be useful too

Op, I understand the panic especially as he has just switched on you.

What will be relevant will be the years living together (financially) before and after marriage. I assume from your posts no joint children?

Total of all assets, this will include house, pensions of both parties:& savings.
Your ages...this is relevant, if for example he is much older and doesn't have many more working years. Any liabilities such as debts. Start making a list so you have it all for solicitors

Work out what your minimum housing costs will be and what your mortgage capability will be - arrange to see a mortgage advisor.

Ultimately, you are in a hostile business deal negotiation with him and he is likely to be able to take the emotion out of this whilst you are still in shock.

Get yourself out walking each day to settle your nervous system, do yoga, gym..whatever you can as it does help

Also remember you will be ok in the end...Trust that it will be ok as you earn money and you will survive and rebuild.

Whose name IS on the deeds?

Sounds like you need a great solicitor and a forensic accountant involved, don't stress honestly youl not walk away with only 50k.

They are married!

Don't listening to the enemy. Calm down. Get legal advice on Monday. Start with citizens advice.

Assume you have joint DC?

Don’t panic the court can set aside a sham trust in these situations. You do need to register your interest with land registry do it on the phone if you can as they have long delays with paperwork. It’s the sort of behaviour which means when you do get to court he is going to have his arse handed to him on a plate. If he’s done something dodgy then he’s lost all credibility with the court. You can also download the deeds but the land registry is months behind so even if he has done something it may not show up yet.

That would be classed as depreciation of assets and crts take a very dim view on that.
A woman i used to work with went through similar with her ex, the judge ended up making an order to the land registry that the house deeds were to be reissued in her name only and removed the property from her exs family member he'd "gifted" the house to.
Whatever he has done will come back and bite him on tge arse as your home etc are joint family assets regardless of whos name they are in, just make sure you have a shit hot lawyer and forensic accountant expensive but worth every penny and it comes with the pleasure of seeing the look on his face when the judge shafts him (apparently it was picture worthy)

It’s scary but - don’t panic. It’s easy enough to find out whose name the house is in. Even if he’s managed to transfer it to his adult child, a decent solicitor should be able to sort you out. Courts will take 50/50 as a starting point so - 50% of house equity, pensions, savings. They will also tend not to allow an obviously unequal split to go through. So just see that solicitor now with what you’ve got. Just remember that no court will agree a settlement that leaves you and the kids homeless or destitute.

My ex said he was putting as many assets in trust for the children as he could. Was a wee bit annoyed when he was told those assets would then be considered as his share of the total pot, so he might well come out with very little of his own. The trusts never happened.

Are you saying he has put the marital home you shared as an asset into a trust without your permission? This is a known tactic, but as others have said, unless you know it's worthless, as I understand it.
Be very careful what you say moving forward. He will do all he can to scare you, but only a judge can decide what's fair, and thankfully, the Marriage Act is clear that neither you nor your children will be homeless.
There's another woman,, I presume?

Assets in the name of both your children would be considered his assets in your divorce @Molecule and his proportion of total pot reduced accordingly?

Wrong thread

Not sharing a bed. I'm in the guest room. He's gone out and is staying out and I don't expect him back until at least Sunday afternoon