@inkyspells Please leave/seperate and block.
I bitterly regret not leaving my gambling addict ex sooner. When I first found out, he’d gambled all our savings while I was in hospital having our DC1. O had to borrow money for nappies, literally every penny was gone. He claimed he was sorry and went to Gamblers Anonymous once or twice.
He continued lying and gambling and lying some more. I knew he was up to something and he’d lie to my face repeatedly to the point I felt I was going mad. He took out loans in my name, credit cards, racked up overdrafts all in secret.
When I finally found out after years of the lies and secrecy he’d gambled close to £250k over several years. Yes - a quarter of a million pounds, gone.
It took me about 5 years to clear debt that was in my name and try and re-build my credit score.
Despite loving him the lies, secrecy, denial and unbelievable, shocking, waste of a life-changing amount of money we divorced. If I could change one thing about my life, I’d have left him that first time and not looked back.
Please, please, please leave - he won’t stop, addiction is an illness and takes years to recover from, if they ever do, you can’t cure him, you can’t love him into stopping and he’ll take you down with him.
I am so sorry you’re going through this, and I hope you can leave. I can’t stress enough how powerful addiction is.