Is an inheritance from my mother a marital asset?

[LucyLoo1972]

I am likely to be separating form my DH.

I am in the process of receiving an inheritance from my mother's estate which is substantial - around £250 K and a half share of a foreign property worth around another £150 K

I am unable to work because I ahd a psychotic break at least partly due to stress my DH out me under - ironically enough through not allowing me adequate access to finances and hoarding money and controlling spending. its a long story. I nearly died and I blame myself fro putting up with that shift when id come form poverty - we had no debts nad he hoarded £100 K in his current account.

Anyway - will my inheritance from my mum be split with him?

Put it into a separate account in your name only. My inheritance wasn't counted in my divorce as I'd put it in a separate account and id given my 3 DC Some of it.

As well as seeing a lawyer, OP, you should see a financial adviser. It might be worth, for example, giving up some house equity in exchange for a percentage of his pension.

The most important thing, I think, is to get a legal separation, and proper legal and financial advice.

It must feel overwhelming, but you can build a better life for yourself. The way you are living at the moment sounds hellish, and you deserve so much more.
Reach out to Women's Aid, they can offer practical, advice, and support.

💐

My friends are going through this
at the moment.

An inheritance can be treated as being outside the marital assets, so those telling you it is all part of a “pot” are talking nonesense.
In my friends case they separated a few months after the H received his inheritance. His solicitor told him it is separate and he can keep 100% of it. His wife’s solicitor told her it should be seen as part of the marital pot and they are going to court.

So every case is very different and you must go and get legal advice.

I would say absent the full facts wife's solicitor is wrong, know they're wrong but is pushing for a compromise offer to avoid court delays and expense.

You can get advice from the solicitors who handled your mother's executry.

thank you - I question myself all the time but I always did which is probably how I got so neurotic aobut my work.

honestly things have been so awful for him too having his lovelyy wife get so very sick like this nad become a different perosn

I had to declare my inheritance. Even though it never went into the actual ‘marital pot’ it was taken into account in the dividing of assets. Which is ironic, as it’s all I had, and all I’ll ever have, apart from jointly owning the family home. It still guts me now that he got a portion of it in the settlement, despite him having a great pension and also extremely wealthy parents who bought him a house and paid for his legal bills. I know, I sound bitter, because I am! Probably because the week the payment landed in his account he turned up in a brand spanking new, top of the range BMW whilst there I was feeding and clothing our children and keeping a roof over their heads. sigh 😬🤣

Yes you are probably right. Wife “only” wants 25% of the inheritance so would settle for that though H is sticking his heels in. Wife has always earned far more whilst also doing way more parenting and wife work. She’s put way more assets into the marriage pot which he will get half of and he wants to keep his inheritance. Not very fair minded to his wife in my opinion and unfortunately has really affected how I think about him, am really shocked he’s treating his ex like this after a 35 year marriage.

im so sorry. my father was the same

my husband is so frugal he buys himself nothing

my husband is not unkind or cruel

he has issues with money but he never intended to hurt me at all

If you are going to continue with this delusional fantasy, no one can help you.

That's not the opinion formed from your many previous threads and posts on others' threads where you empathised.

I find it hard knowing what is the truth of the matter in some ways