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Would you feel comfortable with this much masturbating?

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NailsAreTooShort · 22/02/2026 08:45

I've been with a lovely man for 4 months, I feel we communicate well, we both make a real effort and I genuinely enjoy his company. He's different to other men I've dated and feel on more of even playing field. We do both have children and live nearly an hour apart, so we only see each other at the weekend as of course the children don't know (mine are 10 and 15, his are 4 and 6). We both late 30s.

Anyway, we have good sex, but...he has told me (I actually think he perhaps didn't mean to) that he has a very strong sex drive, and he masturbates every day, quite often twice a day. He said something about seeing woman in leggings and it can make him horny? I feel a bit uncomfortable and strange about it, but obviously its not up to me to tell him what to do with his body. I just need to decide if this is a line for me. When I see him he won't do it for a couple of days now, because it did affect sex a few times as he couldn't climax.

So, my question is, would this bother you? Have you had a boyfriend/partner/husband who did this everyday, and if so, how did you feel?

OP posts:
exhaustDAD · 24/02/2026 00:17

@ClawsandEffect What you described reminds me of what my wife told me last April. For some reason she had this surge of hormones that lasted a few weeks, and all she could think of is having sex - I have no shame in admitting that I could barely keep up. She continuously kept telling me that this is a horrible way to live because she is not being able to focus on anything else, and asked if this is what it's like to be a guy. Something about your description really made me think of this experience..

GarlicBound · 24/02/2026 00:36

OutsideOutside · 23/02/2026 07:35

Wow not for me, guessing it’s all men replying then.

Heading up to menopause, I did it two or three times a day in the loo at work 😂Menopause + antidepressants killed it all stone dead, but at least I've got my happy memories!

I agree with @exhaustDAD and similar PPs, @NailsAreTooShort. He's going to be too much hassle. A partner should be making you feel great about yourself, not provoking insecurities.

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